"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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"Ttyl"?

B012

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I was talking to a girl over facebook chat and after like half an hour she told me that she needed to go and that she would talk to me later - it was around midnight btw. When someone says they will ttyl how long should you wait before talking to them? When i talked to her she had long responses and kept the convo going for quite a while, where she could have easily ended the conversation or said not much.

That girl rarely has fb chat on (practically never) but the next day she was on quite often. I waited until the day after that before i talked to her again. She took a few minutes to respond and then said she was busy with something and once again she would talk to me later, i looked on her profile and she had actually told someone else that she was doing the thing she said she was busy with but she was still commenting on stuff occasionally so im not sure if she was just using that as an excuse = S.

Did i talk to her too soon, was she just being nice in the first place and didnt actually want to talk to me later or does what she said the second time not matter and i should just try again later? I do go to school with her and my previous thread was about her (http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=182381), i dont have school for 3 weeks though and as i explained in that thread i dont often get the chance to talk to her at school anyway.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Overanalyzing. It's more about how often you talk to her, not when. It's all guidelines anyway.
 

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NorwegianDJ said:
Overanalyzing. It's more about how often you talk to her, not when. It's all guidelines anyway.
Thought i might have been, how often is too much then? I want to talk to her often but dont want to seem to creepy, im afraid i wont realise if im being creepy until too late lol.

Im planning on asking for her number soon so i can text and maybe call her, if i ask her that it will atleast give her an oppurtunity to make up some excuse if she really dislikes me and i wont waste any more time.
 

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Lets say once every 3 days then. Rules are made to be broken anyways.
Just have an aim in mind. ie meetup, increase attraction then meet up. And no inaction.
 
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