The Duke
Master Don Juan
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I recently set up dates with two different girls from online dating that both flaked on first dates:
Girl A texts me 4hours before our date and says she had to go to her job she just quit to pick up some personal belongings and says she couldn't get in the building so she had to go back at a later time and now didn't have time to do all that, drive, and get ready to meet up. She says "I'm sorry, lets do a different day maybe a different place."
I heard a little bit of hesitation in the previous phone call we had to set up the date in regards to the venue I picked as well as her not having enough time but she agreed anyways. There were also some other things I picked up on during the phone call that told me she is a girl that doesn't always think things thru and doesn't know herself very well. She claims she is super "picky" and feels she has a right to be. LMAO Sure thing!
How am I moving forward? She can reach out to me, if she does I'll try and set something up again. If her interest was where it should be, she would have made it happen. If I was Tom Brady or George Clooney, do you think she would have cancelled?
Experience has taught me you can get these girls out, but it usually fizzles out and you end up with no return on investment.
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Girl B texts me 8hrs before our first date and needs to cancel. She just got a reminder about a hair appointment and they will charge her if she cancels.
She also explains she has other commitments thru out the week and tells me exactly what they are. She then asks me if Friday or Saturday works.
I tell her Friday works.
I think this girls interest is solid. She pointed out that the venue I picked was closer to me than her but she would still meet me. This girl isn't as hot as Girl A but still nice looking. She's got more feminine qualities than Girl A.
Meanwhile I'll keep looking, collecting phone numbers. I approach dating like they do. No big deal if it doesn't work out, and always be entertaining multiple options. Do this and you'll make better choices and the flakes won't bother you much at all.
Girl A texts me 4hours before our date and says she had to go to her job she just quit to pick up some personal belongings and says she couldn't get in the building so she had to go back at a later time and now didn't have time to do all that, drive, and get ready to meet up. She says "I'm sorry, lets do a different day maybe a different place."
I heard a little bit of hesitation in the previous phone call we had to set up the date in regards to the venue I picked as well as her not having enough time but she agreed anyways. There were also some other things I picked up on during the phone call that told me she is a girl that doesn't always think things thru and doesn't know herself very well. She claims she is super "picky" and feels she has a right to be. LMAO Sure thing!
How am I moving forward? She can reach out to me, if she does I'll try and set something up again. If her interest was where it should be, she would have made it happen. If I was Tom Brady or George Clooney, do you think she would have cancelled?
Experience has taught me you can get these girls out, but it usually fizzles out and you end up with no return on investment.
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Girl B texts me 8hrs before our first date and needs to cancel. She just got a reminder about a hair appointment and they will charge her if she cancels.
She also explains she has other commitments thru out the week and tells me exactly what they are. She then asks me if Friday or Saturday works.
I tell her Friday works.
I think this girls interest is solid. She pointed out that the venue I picked was closer to me than her but she would still meet me. This girl isn't as hot as Girl A but still nice looking. She's got more feminine qualities than Girl A.
Meanwhile I'll keep looking, collecting phone numbers. I approach dating like they do. No big deal if it doesn't work out, and always be entertaining multiple options. Do this and you'll make better choices and the flakes won't bother you much at all.