"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

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Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

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Trying to meet a girl I never see

The LadyKiller

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Recently, a gorgeous HB began working in one department of the large company I work at. Because we work in different departments, I have rarely seen her. In fact, we only met once for about 30 seconds 4 months ago while at work. Our company has also added a feature to our e-mail where the sender's headshot is always displayed. Her department sends a lot of e-mails. Lately, my inbox has been filled with e-mails with her face on it ;)

As for me right now, the plates I did have crashed and cannot be pieced back together. Therefore, I am hitting the "refresh" button, or just finding new plates to spin. Perhaps she can be one of those plates.

The problem, as you may guess, is I don't know how to create an opportunity for us to meet. Her department is physically in a tricky location; if I were to wander by there, it would be completely obvious and in the company of others. She has a Facebook, but becoming "friends" with someone I met once 4 months ago could be seen as creepy - even if I noticed that we seemingly have a lot in common. I do know one guy in her department and we get along. I'm not sure how he can put in a good word for me, but at least he sees her regularly.

Any thoughts or ideas here? With girls I regularly see/know, this is easy. For a girl I rarely ever see, it's tougher.
 
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"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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SgtSplacker

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I'd go visit your friend when you know shes there so she can get used to seeing you around. Then maybe game her through email a bit maybe send her a screenie of your inbox full of her mail and put something witty like "I'm renaming my inbox to Michelle-box, lol" maybe add "well hope your liking the sales dept" or something like that. If you go visit your friend I would basically ignore her BTW...
 

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SgtSplacker said:
I'd go visit your friend when you know shes there so she can get used to seeing you around. Then maybe game her through email a bit maybe send her a screenie of your inbox full of her mail and put something witty like "I'm renaming my inbox to Michelle-box, lol" maybe add "well hope your liking the sales dept" or something like that. If you go visit your friend I would basically ignore her BTW...
I'd still have to find some opening to meet her in person before I can go about the e-mails (in which case I would use FB instead, our company e-mails are monitored). I can try to conveniently be in the area, the bigger obstacle is our hours. At the company I work at, people work shifts that range all 24 hrs in the day (i.e. she works early in the day, I work later in the day). The hours tend to change somewhat each month, so that might help too. I get along with the guy in her department. We aren't really close friends, but we do know each other and get along well.
 

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Are there any other possibilities? I am trying to find other plates that might be more accessible, but tbh there isn't a lot. This HB though might be worth a shot, if I ever run into her.
 
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