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You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

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Trying to meet a girl I never see

The LadyKiller

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Recently, a gorgeous HB began working in one department of the large company I work at. Because we work in different departments, I have rarely seen her. In fact, we only met once for about 30 seconds 4 months ago while at work. Our company has also added a feature to our e-mail where the sender's headshot is always displayed. Her department sends a lot of e-mails. Lately, my inbox has been filled with e-mails with her face on it ;)

As for me right now, the plates I did have crashed and cannot be pieced back together. Therefore, I am hitting the "refresh" button, or just finding new plates to spin. Perhaps she can be one of those plates.

The problem, as you may guess, is I don't know how to create an opportunity for us to meet. Her department is physically in a tricky location; if I were to wander by there, it would be completely obvious and in the company of others. She has a Facebook, but becoming "friends" with someone I met once 4 months ago could be seen as creepy - even if I noticed that we seemingly have a lot in common. I do know one guy in her department and we get along. I'm not sure how he can put in a good word for me, but at least he sees her regularly.

Any thoughts or ideas here? With girls I regularly see/know, this is easy. For a girl I rarely ever see, it's tougher.
 
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"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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SgtSplacker

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I'd go visit your friend when you know shes there so she can get used to seeing you around. Then maybe game her through email a bit maybe send her a screenie of your inbox full of her mail and put something witty like "I'm renaming my inbox to Michelle-box, lol" maybe add "well hope your liking the sales dept" or something like that. If you go visit your friend I would basically ignore her BTW...
 

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SgtSplacker said:
I'd go visit your friend when you know shes there so she can get used to seeing you around. Then maybe game her through email a bit maybe send her a screenie of your inbox full of her mail and put something witty like "I'm renaming my inbox to Michelle-box, lol" maybe add "well hope your liking the sales dept" or something like that. If you go visit your friend I would basically ignore her BTW...
I'd still have to find some opening to meet her in person before I can go about the e-mails (in which case I would use FB instead, our company e-mails are monitored). I can try to conveniently be in the area, the bigger obstacle is our hours. At the company I work at, people work shifts that range all 24 hrs in the day (i.e. she works early in the day, I work later in the day). The hours tend to change somewhat each month, so that might help too. I get along with the guy in her department. We aren't really close friends, but we do know each other and get along well.
 

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Are there any other possibilities? I am trying to find other plates that might be more accessible, but tbh there isn't a lot. This HB though might be worth a shot, if I ever run into her.
 
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