"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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trying to keep a girl, whose taking too much of time

mackdaddy27

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Hey,

Suppose you wnat to keep a girl around, as your back/primary girl but you still want spin your other plates, but the primary girl takes up like 90 % of your time, not
permitting you to see other plates. How can you string her along, at the same time, keep your self some freedom?

I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours. FAck ! What a waist of time ! Should I get her some emotional tampoon to do the dirty work?
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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mackdaddy27 said:
Hey,

Suppose you wnat to keep a girl around, as your back/primary girl but you still want spin your other plates, but the primary girl takes up like 90 % of your time, not
permitting you to see other plates. How can you string her along, at the same time, keep your self some freedom?

I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours. FAck ! What a waist of time ! Should I get her some emotional tampoon to do the dirty work?
I think some guys would tell you, you are making yourself to available if it's 90% of the day. Maybe it just seems like 90%?
 

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this should be self explanatory.. if you are spending 90% of your time with ONE girl you obviously are not able to properly spin plates.

it sounds like you may be even missing the "porpuse" of spinnning plates.

form my understanding, "spinning plates" is soley for the purpose to NOT be to available or invested in ONE person and keeping your options open.

with spending 90% with one particular person you are more likely to be considered "cheating" rather than "spinning plates"
 

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mackdaddy27 said:
I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours.
Don't tell her that she has only 15 minutes, however after 15 mins tell her your busy and you have to go. Stop making yourself so available to her, remember you are the prize, she has to work for your attention, its not free.
 

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This won't be easy to undo, either. If she is used to this kind of time and openness from you, she's going to notice it when you try to take it away.

This is why having and maintaining these boundaries initially, is important.

Expect her to become upset or ask you what's going on when you start to be less available.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Do whatever you want and convey that you will do what you want. She will only sit around and wonder about you. You control the frame.

You call her when you want. You cut the call short when you want. You ignore her when you want, and she'll only wonder about you.

Don't give in to whatever she wants because she knows that you will already do that. She will become so much more interested when you do it your way.
 

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mackdaddy27 said:
is the solution to just cut the cord ??

Yes


mackdaddy27 said:
I mean, she doesn't give me much freedom...but she has a life of her own too
Here my friend is the problem. You've given her all the power in the relationship already. Your talking like she owns you and your lucky to have what freedom you do have.

Be a man and take your life back and put this women in her place.
 
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