trying to keep a girl, whose taking too much of time

[mackdaddy27]

Hey,

Suppose you wnat to keep a girl around, as your back/primary girl but you still want spin your other plates, but the primary girl takes up like 90 % of your time, not
permitting you to see other plates. How can you string her along, at the same time, keep your self some freedom?

I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours. FAck ! What a waist of time ! Should I get her some emotional tampoon to do the dirty work?

 

[sosilky]

Hey,

Suppose you wnat to keep a girl around, as your back/primary girl but you still want spin your other plates, but the primary girl takes up like 90 % of your time, not
permitting you to see other plates. How can you string her along, at the same time, keep your self some freedom?

I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours. FAck ! What a waist of time ! Should I get her some emotional tampoon to do the dirty work?

I think some guys would tell you, you are making yourself to available if it's 90% of the day. Maybe it just seems like 90%?

 

[DavenJuan]

this should be self explanatory.. if you are spending 90% of your time with ONE girl you obviously are not able to properly spin plates.

it sounds like you may be even missing the "porpuse" of spinnning plates.

form my understanding, "spinning plates" is soley for the purpose to NOT be to available or invested in ONE person and keeping your options open.

with spending 90% with one particular person you are more likely to be considered "cheating" rather than "spinning plates"

 

[MacAvoy]

I am thinking of telling her you only get like a 15 min call a day, She calls for like 2-3 hours.

Don't tell her that she has only 15 minutes, however after 15 mins tell her your busy and you have to go. Stop making yourself so available to her, remember you are the prize, she has to work for your attention, its not free.

 

[MotownMack]

This won't be easy to undo, either. If she is used to this kind of time and openness from you, she's going to notice it when you try to take it away.

This is why having and maintaining these boundaries initially, is important.

Expect her to become upset or ask you what's going on when you start to be less available.

 

[mackdaddy27]

is the solution to just cut the cord ??

I mean, she doesn't give me much freedom...but she has a life of her own too

 

[Mavrick]

Do whatever you want and convey that you will do what you want. She will only sit around and wonder about you. You control the frame.

You call her when you want. You cut the call short when you want. You ignore her when you want, and she'll only wonder about you.

Don't give in to whatever she wants because she knows that you will already do that. She will become so much more interested when you do it your way.

 

[MacAvoy]

is the solution to just cut the cord ??

Yes

I mean, she doesn't give me much freedom...but she has a life of her own too

Here my friend is the problem. You've given her all the power in the relationship already. Your talking like she owns you and your lucky to have what freedom you do have.

Be a man and take your life back and put this women in her place.