So I haven't had a girlfriend since February though I've had sex. I been trying to remain single but I feeling a little down. I know my ex who got me locked up has a boyfriend now I've been so tempted to go to her Facebook profile or tell her I miss her but I've been holding strong. Have not messaged her 0 peaks at her Facebook. I have seen her on Pof because she viewed me but I deleted that account. All I've been doing is working out as a hobby I will add meditation and find other hobbies. Bottom line is I'm feeling depressed as hell I miss affection I miss regular sex I miss kissing as but I don't miss fights being broke kissing as etc.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Trying to hold Strong
- Thread starter bigwuz
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"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
Spin more plates.
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What did she get you locked up for? Any domestic related stuff? The spin plates thing may sound harsh but it's true. No ones going to knock on your door and profess their undying love for your. You're going to have to get back on it and ride into the next cathouse. Saddle up.
Tictac
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The word "trying" simply gives you advance permission to fail.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Understand that the reason she fell out of love with you is that she lost respect for you. Going back and begging her to take you back will not help the root cause of your break-up. When women leave men, it's because she no longer loves him... respect is what keeps a woman in love with you... no respect = no love.
Walk away and never look back, start dating other women, you are not going to feel like hitting up other women, but you have to do this.
Walk away and never look back, start dating other women, you are not going to feel like hitting up other women, but you have to do this.
"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
This I do think she lost mad respect for me I was jobless for a little bit and just let myself go and I stopped talking to females which kept on her on her toes no I really don't want to talk to anyone else or even try I want to get myself together but me n this girl have a daughter together. I guess I need a little more time to focus on myself. Anyway I haven't failed and I barely talk about her.
You need to learn to be happy without women. I've been single for a while and I had to learn. Never go back to an ex. She is an ex for a reason. The holidays can make people feel more lonely then usual, so that could have something to do with it. Just stay strong.
Well it was a domestic thing she said I got her I was like did I??? They gave me 6 months because I went to trial and lost. Anyway that's all besides the point. I've been trying to get into better shape and been lifting weights walking everyday and trying to eat a little better. Think I'll start up Brazilian jiujitsu to keep me busy.