So I haven't had a girlfriend since February though I've had sex. I been trying to remain single but I feeling a little down. I know my ex who got me locked up has a boyfriend now I've been so tempted to go to her Facebook profile or tell her I miss her but I've been holding strong. Have not messaged her 0 peaks at her Facebook. I have seen her on Pof because she viewed me but I deleted that account. All I've been doing is working out as a hobby I will add meditation and find other hobbies. Bottom line is I'm feeling depressed as hell I miss affection I miss regular sex I miss kissing as but I don't miss fights being broke kissing as etc.
"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Trying to hold Strong
- Thread starter bigwuz
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
NSX-R
Master Don Juan
Spin more plates.
HeadLightsOn
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What did she get you locked up for? Any domestic related stuff? The spin plates thing may sound harsh but it's true. No ones going to knock on your door and profess their undying love for your. You're going to have to get back on it and ride into the next cathouse. Saddle up.
Tictac
Banned
The word "trying" simply gives you advance permission to fail.
RangerMIke
Master Don Juan
Understand that the reason she fell out of love with you is that she lost respect for you. Going back and begging her to take you back will not help the root cause of your break-up. When women leave men, it's because she no longer loves him... respect is what keeps a woman in love with you... no respect = no love.
Walk away and never look back, start dating other women, you are not going to feel like hitting up other women, but you have to do this.
Walk away and never look back, start dating other women, you are not going to feel like hitting up other women, but you have to do this.
"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
This I do think she lost mad respect for me I was jobless for a little bit and just let myself go and I stopped talking to females which kept on her on her toes no I really don't want to talk to anyone else or even try I want to get myself together but me n this girl have a daughter together. I guess I need a little more time to focus on myself. Anyway I haven't failed and I barely talk about her.
You need to learn to be happy without women. I've been single for a while and I had to learn. Never go back to an ex. She is an ex for a reason. The holidays can make people feel more lonely then usual, so that could have something to do with it. Just stay strong.
Well it was a domestic thing she said I got her I was like did I??? They gave me 6 months because I went to trial and lost. Anyway that's all besides the point. I've been trying to get into better shape and been lifting weights walking everyday and trying to eat a little better. Think I'll start up Brazilian jiujitsu to keep me busy.