"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Trying to get back out there

Mex

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Okay, It has been a while since I posted. I never used to be a guy to approach women. I am pretty nervous and insecure, especcially about my height (5-6).

However, last fall I was trying to make a change. I found this site and tried some tips with no real success, but at least got some experience. Then my ex came into town for an internship and well, as you might imagine, thats where I have been since. Now she is gone and we are broken up again. Now I am ready to get back into action.

Now, I have a tough time going out meeting girls since I am a grad student and very busy with research, teaching etc. However, I ride the bus everyday to school and encounter some hot chicks, but it is tough to approach, especially if they are not sitting near me. I think it would be pretty weird to go out my my way to approach one of these chicks without seeming like a creep. Anyway, without bantering too much, there is one chick who is just absolutely gorgeous, but by the time she gets on the bus, there are no seats near me so I have no chance to talk to her. Then she gets off at a different stop from me.

Does anyone have any ideas on how I can talk to her without seeming creepy? By the way, I can not get off at her stop since that would mean I miss about the first 15 minutes of class that I have to teach. Also, I don't even think she has ever noticed me.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Max Power

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No advice, but I'd be interested in hearing some answers.

However, I don't think it's healty to have borderline oneitis for some chick on public transportation that you don't even know.
 

Teh_Wolf

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could you sit nearer to where she would be sitting? thats probably kinda stalkerish tho lol
 
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