Trying to do everything right hurts success

[LuckyStrike88]

I see a lot of guys including myself in the past trying to do everything right, and thinking about it, over-analyzing situations way too much.

And what happens when you do that is that when it doesn't go as perfect as you want and something happens, you get frustrated about that. Like **** i screwed up it over, i failed. Back to the drawing board. It doesn't work like that.

First of all the mistake you made isn't usually as bad as you think, but because you compare it to the perfect situation too much it only seems like that. Secondly the fact that you feel bad about making that "mistake" and start to act differently towards the woman because of it, trying to overcompensate to fix the "mistake", hurts your chances way more than any mistake you could possibly make. Because that is pure insecurity, and women see right through you.

Just relax, be positive & trust your own strength. Being both comfortable and confident is what creates your success.

 

[Poon King]

The only mistake a man can ever make is valuing a woman's opinion more than his own. Never put ANY woman on a pedestal EVER for ANY reason.

Your happiness and what you want out of life always trumps a woman's opinion. If a woman doesn't do what you want her to.. its not because you "made a mistake" its because either you're giving her too much credit, you're a co-dependent homo, or she is just a b!tch. Either way.. don't chase.. replace.

There is nothing to analyze when it comes to women and their behavior. If you have something a particular woman wants.. she will act right. If you have nothing she wants.. she will act however she feels like acting and there is little you can do about it.

To be alpha is to be free. Free to be, act, think and behave however you want.. regardless of how women feel about it and regardless of what they think about it. Its not about following the rules of attraction.. its about setting yourself FREE to make your own f*cking rules and with no apologies.

 

[Desdinova]

One thing that I discovered in a LTR I was in is that mistakes are part of her attraction toward you. As Pook once said, perfect is boring. You need to fvck up once in a while to keep things interesting and unpredictable.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

The only mistake a man can ever make is valuing a woman's opinion more than his own. Never put ANY woman on a pedestal EVER for ANY reason.

Your happiness and what you want out of life always trumps a woman's opinion. If a woman doesn't do what you want her to.. its not because you "made a mistake" its because either you're giving her too much credit, you're a co-dependent homo, or she is just a b!tch. Either way.. don't chase.. replace.

There is nothing to analyze when it comes to women and their behavior. If you have something a particular woman wants.. she will act right. If you have nothing she wants.. she will act however she feels like acting and there is little you can do about it.

To be alpha is to be free. Free to be, act, think and behave however you want.. regardless of how women feel about it and regardless of what they think about it. Its not about following the rules of attraction.. its about setting yourself FREE to make your own f*cking rules and with no apologies.

I know there is a lot of logic in here though it does not completely connect with me. To some extend yes, the opposite of this would be making the woman the center of your world and following her like a puppy dog and this being the complete opposite.

I feel what i want will be somewhere in the middle though, this just sounds a bit too extreme to me. I do have my dreams, career and social activities that i would never let her get in the way of. But i also do value having a woman in my life that respects my life and would not get in the way of it but support me with it. And yes maybe i would partly compromise if she is worth it.

 

[LuckyStrike88]

One thing that I discovered in a LTR I was in is that mistakes are part of her attraction toward you. As Pook once said, perfect is boring. You need to fvck up once in a while to keep things interesting and unpredictable.

This is something i hadn't really thought about before but it makes sense. Emotional swings do make things interesting and keeps things from getting dull. I've been pushing myself to let go of the fear of making mistakes and be more authentic even if it is outside of PUA rules. This fact will make that road easier as i realized it. Thanks Desdinova.