Trying to Cool Off the Chatty Chicks

[EyeBRollin]

Still running into this. Met some chick on Instagram through a mutual group events page. After a few DMs back and forth, I exited the convo saying we might see each other at the group event. As soon as I walked in, she walked over and tried to strike conversation. High IOIs, positive body language, basically kept bumping into me throughout the afternoon. I set up the date for early next week, as I've been out of town and am not free this week or the weekend. I gave her my number for the date just in case, and she put it into her google schedule.

Three days later, she's texted / called pretty much every day trying to chat. Gents, is there anyway to cool her off without outright ignoring her?

Attempt 1: I waited a few hours to respond, told her I'm tied up with work and that she could call me sometime.

Attempt 2: She texted me the next day, I dry texted her for a few messages, then left the conversation with her having the last text.

Attempt 3: She calls me 12 hours later to talk, I talk to her for about 5 minutes and get off the phone to tend to life.

Our date is still five days away. I forsee this burning out either way. More importantly, why do some chicks feel the need to be in contact incessantly?

 

[grayclif]

She has high interest, she's thinking about you constantly and just wants to talk. I don't see any harm in chatting her up a bit but keep it real short.

This happens when you set a date too far into the future. I try to set my date within the next 3 or 4 days. If I get the feeling that it may be longer I'll postpone asking her until I can be in that 3 or 4 day window.

In the meantime I do keep in touch with a jokey text or meme. Keeping everything fun yet short. I avoid phone calls altogether.

 

[EyeBRollin]

She has high interest, she's thinking about you constantly and just wants to talk. I don't see any harm in chatting her up a bit but keep it real short.

As in... initiate?

This happens when you set a date too far into the future. I try to set my date within the next 3 or 4 days. If I get the feeling that it may be longer I'll postpone asking her until I can be in that 3 or 4 day window.

In the meantime I do keep in touch with a jokey text or meme. Keeping everything fun yet short. I avoid phone calls altogether.

Definitely agreed. It's tough for me because I get busy with work and traveling for work. I really only have time for people who schedule things 4-8 days out.

Phone calls seem to hold them over for a few days in my experience. Texting gets lame real quick.

 

[grayclif]

Chicks love to text so you must learn their language. They basically just want to see something in their notification bar. But don't text "hey" or "what's up", though if interest is super high it doesn't hurt.

However they usually text first with a "hey" or "babe" or something like that and i usually say "hey" right back at them to let them get the convo started. I'll comment on what theyre talking about and if I can find something funny in it I'll tease them. A little more chit chat and I'll leave it. I won't say goodbye cause they know I'm busy.

 

[marmel75]

Toss her a bone...it will even make her more interested. Talk to her for a few minutes, then let her know you have to get going and look forward to seeing her on whatever day you planned...this has first date bang potential written all over it