"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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True? Skinny girls like big guys and fat girls like skinny guys?

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I'm not skinny, but I'm lean. Little (very) fat on my sides (if you wanna call them love handles) and the rest is just toned. I gave up trying to gain mass as it became a full-time job. My BMI rating is 20.8.

But it seems many girls (especially skinny or petite women) all go for guys 200lbs+. Attraction is not a choice, so I know if my game is right, she could possibly go against what her conscious brain says she like. But what do you think about this "myth". Do big guys automatically get more attraction from females?
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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so called "skinny" guys with muscular frames actually have it best. What women find attractive is usually a toned, slightly muscular frame. Hence bodies like Brad Pitt or Orlando Bloom.
 

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I've hooked up with several women who, over the course of knowing them, told me that they "normally go for bigger guys" and I'm in great shape but very thin (6'0 150 lbs). Super fit women tend to go for fit guys (because let's face it, it's more than just a look.... it's a lifestyle), and being a jacked dude is a pretty good display of super fitness.

I'm a skinny guy and I'll never date a fat chick. Plenty of fat chicks hit on me though, which is almost insulting because they think that they can get with what I've got.
 

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Do big guys automatically get more attraction from females?
Generally speaking, yes. Specifically speaking, it is the bigger, "CUT" guys that girls salivate over.

Don't confuse a skinny with "lean" or "wiry", however. Skinny denotes somebody who's unbecomingly thin; whereas lean and wiry denote thinness that isn't wholly unattractive.

And I don't know why fat girls find skinny guys so appealing. I thought they would prefer guys of similar proportions to make themselves feel smaller. :confused:
 

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I am a rather petite lady and i do like big bulky guys. He has to have a big chest and long arms, doesnt have to be toned or anything, just big, but for me, its cause i can imagine what an embrace in those arms and resting against that chest would feel like.... truly divine.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Cinamon said:
I am a rather petite lady and i do like big bulky guys. He has to have a big chest and long arms, doesnt have to be toned or anything, just big, but for me, its cause i can imagine what an embrace in those arms and resting against that chest would feel like.... truly divine.
That's the kind of stuff I hear from petite girls. Maybe times will change, and thin/toned will be in again.
 

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When do women feel "more secure" with a bigger guy? Are they talking about in the bedroom? Walking down a dark alley? Would a woman feel unprotected if she was dating Bruce Lee?

Being bigger doesn't necessarily mean anything...a gun can stop anybody. I could understand if a girl is into getting manhandled in the bedroom and want the guy to flip her all around, but other than that....what else is to this theory?
 

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Im a pretty big guy not that tall but broad shouldered etc, 5'10" 185-190 depending on how often i hit the gym that week Haha. im not tone but im not fat....just big is how id put it. and girls i hookup with always tell me how they "love it" when i hug them/throw them around in bed because "they feel so much smaller" than me
 

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pua1989 said:
Im a pretty big guy not that tall but broad shouldered etc, 5'10" 185-190 depending on how often i hit the gym that week Haha. im not tone but im not fat....just big is how id put it. and girls i hookup with always tell me how they "love it" when i hug them/throw them around in bed because "they feel so much smaller" than me
Now that's what I'm talkin bout ;)
 

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AlmostThere! said:
When do women feel "more secure" with a bigger guy? Are they talking about in the bedroom? Walking down a dark alley? Would a woman feel unprotected if she was dating Bruce Lee?

Being bigger doesn't necessarily mean anything...a gun can stop anybody. I could understand if a girl is into getting manhandled in the bedroom and want the guy to flip her all around, but other than that....what else is to this theory?

See what you did there? You used logic. Do you think women don't know a gun can stop anybody? Of course they know that. It's about how that bigger or taller guy makes her "FEEL". She FEELS secure. Women work off how things make them FEEL. It's not reality, its FEELING.

The key is to make a woman FEEL secure with you. She can look past height or weight if you can give her that same FEELING.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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AlmostThere - our ingrained preferences change far slower than our lifestyles.

Well with breast pumps and formula your baby won't starve even with a flat girl, and dying during child birth is extremely rare for any woman in modern society.

Yet, most of us still like curvy hips and nice tits.
 

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So, what's the verdict? Does a lean guy have MUCH fewer chances than a bigger guy?
 
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