"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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True? Skinny girls like big guys and fat girls like skinny guys?

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I'm not skinny, but I'm lean. Little (very) fat on my sides (if you wanna call them love handles) and the rest is just toned. I gave up trying to gain mass as it became a full-time job. My BMI rating is 20.8.

But it seems many girls (especially skinny or petite women) all go for guys 200lbs+. Attraction is not a choice, so I know if my game is right, she could possibly go against what her conscious brain says she like. But what do you think about this "myth". Do big guys automatically get more attraction from females?
 

“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”

Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.

Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers.  Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.

I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.

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so called "skinny" guys with muscular frames actually have it best. What women find attractive is usually a toned, slightly muscular frame. Hence bodies like Brad Pitt or Orlando Bloom.
 

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I've hooked up with several women who, over the course of knowing them, told me that they "normally go for bigger guys" and I'm in great shape but very thin (6'0 150 lbs). Super fit women tend to go for fit guys (because let's face it, it's more than just a look.... it's a lifestyle), and being a jacked dude is a pretty good display of super fitness.

I'm a skinny guy and I'll never date a fat chick. Plenty of fat chicks hit on me though, which is almost insulting because they think that they can get with what I've got.
 

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Do big guys automatically get more attraction from females?
Generally speaking, yes. Specifically speaking, it is the bigger, "CUT" guys that girls salivate over.

Don't confuse a skinny with "lean" or "wiry", however. Skinny denotes somebody who's unbecomingly thin; whereas lean and wiry denote thinness that isn't wholly unattractive.

And I don't know why fat girls find skinny guys so appealing. I thought they would prefer guys of similar proportions to make themselves feel smaller. :confused:
 

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I am a rather petite lady and i do like big bulky guys. He has to have a big chest and long arms, doesnt have to be toned or anything, just big, but for me, its cause i can imagine what an embrace in those arms and resting against that chest would feel like.... truly divine.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Cinamon said:
I am a rather petite lady and i do like big bulky guys. He has to have a big chest and long arms, doesnt have to be toned or anything, just big, but for me, its cause i can imagine what an embrace in those arms and resting against that chest would feel like.... truly divine.
That's the kind of stuff I hear from petite girls. Maybe times will change, and thin/toned will be in again.
 

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When do women feel "more secure" with a bigger guy? Are they talking about in the bedroom? Walking down a dark alley? Would a woman feel unprotected if she was dating Bruce Lee?

Being bigger doesn't necessarily mean anything...a gun can stop anybody. I could understand if a girl is into getting manhandled in the bedroom and want the guy to flip her all around, but other than that....what else is to this theory?
 

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Im a pretty big guy not that tall but broad shouldered etc, 5'10" 185-190 depending on how often i hit the gym that week Haha. im not tone but im not fat....just big is how id put it. and girls i hookup with always tell me how they "love it" when i hug them/throw them around in bed because "they feel so much smaller" than me
 

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pua1989 said:
Im a pretty big guy not that tall but broad shouldered etc, 5'10" 185-190 depending on how often i hit the gym that week Haha. im not tone but im not fat....just big is how id put it. and girls i hookup with always tell me how they "love it" when i hug them/throw them around in bed because "they feel so much smaller" than me
Now that's what I'm talkin bout ;)
 

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AlmostThere! said:
When do women feel "more secure" with a bigger guy? Are they talking about in the bedroom? Walking down a dark alley? Would a woman feel unprotected if she was dating Bruce Lee?

Being bigger doesn't necessarily mean anything...a gun can stop anybody. I could understand if a girl is into getting manhandled in the bedroom and want the guy to flip her all around, but other than that....what else is to this theory?

See what you did there? You used logic. Do you think women don't know a gun can stop anybody? Of course they know that. It's about how that bigger or taller guy makes her "FEEL". She FEELS secure. Women work off how things make them FEEL. It's not reality, its FEELING.

The key is to make a woman FEEL secure with you. She can look past height or weight if you can give her that same FEELING.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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AlmostThere - our ingrained preferences change far slower than our lifestyles.

Well with breast pumps and formula your baby won't starve even with a flat girl, and dying during child birth is extremely rare for any woman in modern society.

Yet, most of us still like curvy hips and nice tits.
 

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So, what's the verdict? Does a lean guy have MUCH fewer chances than a bigger guy?
 
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