"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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True or False question for the DJ experts:

cmr662

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Took an HB 9.5 out this weekend and had an awesome first date. We talked today and she mentioned how much fun she had, and we confirmed plans for a second date this weekend.

Obviously there has to be some level of interest there. TRUE or FALSE:

Assuming all cards are played right, I can get this girl to fall for me now that I have confirmed interest.

I know that most guys (including myself) rarely play all their cards right, but basically what I'm asking here is, is getting the initial interest the most important part of it all?
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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False. The most important part of all is KEEPING that interest. If you only are creating initial interest and then acting in a way that breaks the tension, interest will fade.
 

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Everything is interesting when it's new. You'll want to maintain or raise that interest level down the road.

But hey...if she's digging you already, then just be smart and keep up the good work.
 

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YOU ALREADY GOT HER INITIAL INTEREST from your first interaction. Anytime you play the dancing monkey (entertain for her attention) you stand the risk of the "NOVELTY EFFECT" wearing thin.

When a trust, safe, familiar bond is formed.......boredom tends to settle in AFTER the honeymoon phase. Real realtionships begin AFTER you have had sex a few times.

The cat string theory is flawed-it has a shelf life of a few moments. Much like anything in life, once the initial interest is maximized people lose interest.
They are like Okay cool, but I already seen that.........wat else you got.

The Party has to end sometime people, leave on a high note.........but remember this old cliche`WANTING IS OFTEN MORE APPEALING THAN HAVING
 

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rocky what is a good way not to break that tension. you got any examples. thanks man.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I dont understand the issue.

I could look at a girl on the street who's eyeing me up and say 'i could get this girl to fall for me', and it would be true.

In a way, she has already fallen for you, since she had so much fun and is wanting another date.

Id say stop asking yourself strange questions and continue acting like a badass and get into her pants as soon as possible.

ps. this is prime sh-t test time. Shes going to be throwing everything and judging every move like crazy. Be strong.
 
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