im still inlove with my ex. we have been seperated for 7 months and were together for 5 yrs. when ever i asked about us one time she said she was dating a guy and they were becoming serious then a couple days later i asked her again and she said the only reason she was talking to him is because he is patient with her and understands what she is doing. then she agreed to have dinner with me. so what the ****, is she serious with this guy or is she just stringing me along, does she still love me or im i just chasing the wind,trying to get with a girl that doesnt really give a **** and just playing nice because she doesnt want tell me to **** off.
"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
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"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Scars
Master Don Juan
BINGO!Cincere said:
Ditch this girl and spin more plates. She's your garbage. She's an ex for a reason. It may be hard after a 5 yr relationship but it's time to move on. There's also the possibility she may come back but don't make it your soul reason for dating other chicks. Do it for yourself. Meet other woman, experience life, have fun, use other girls to distract you until you get your head back on straight.
so im just reading into something thats not there. why does it seem like everything is one sided. why does it seem like she just got over me in a couple days while i have been feeling this way for months but it seems like years. how did she get over me but not me over her. i think its ****ed up that its so easy for her but it so hard for me when she ****ed me over.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
A confused girl like this is always trouble. She is conflicted because she likes some aspects of you and other aspects of this other guy. She wishes she could make one perfect man out of both of you.
My advice:
1) Re-read your original post
2) Read your signature
3) Re-read Scar's post
4) Re-read your signature
4) Go out and implement Scar's post. He is dead-on.
5) Keep re-reading your signature.
My advice:
1) Re-read your original post
2) Read your signature
3) Re-read Scar's post
4) Re-read your signature
4) Go out and implement Scar's post. He is dead-on.
5) Keep re-reading your signature.
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
when one person ditches another... it doesnt usually happen overnight. she was probably losing interest for some time. so by time she made the move, while it was new for you... she was well over you. I'm sorry. things are never even steven... someone always hurts more, cares more, loves more, etc etc.
But the real question is: WHO CARES that it is easy for her? Read SCARS post, and get busy my friend. Good luck
But the real question is: WHO CARES that it is easy for her? Read SCARS post, and get busy my friend. Good luck
every one keeps telling me she be back, she just wants to have fun and make sure your the one for her but im like **** that. i dont think i want her anymore. she willing to throw 5 yrs away to have fun. **** that im out. if she does come back later in the future. i will hurt her feelings.
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Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
she isnt coming back. having fun usually supercedes coming back. im sorry... again. get some gasoline, burn the bridge, and chase some women. there are 3 billion females in the world, start hitting on number 2.
I would just let her go. I almost put myself in that situation. But I followed the NC challenge which helped me. Although I missed her, I came to realize that we would have crashed and burned either way. If we would have reconciled, I believe that tipping point would have spilled again. Just my two cents.
"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.