im still inlove with my ex. we have been seperated for 7 months and were together for 5 yrs. when ever i asked about us one time she said she was dating a guy and they were becoming serious then a couple days later i asked her again and she said the only reason she was talking to him is because he is patient with her and understands what she is doing. then she agreed to have dinner with me. so what the ****, is she serious with this guy or is she just stringing me along, does she still love me or im i just chasing the wind,trying to get with a girl that doesnt really give a **** and just playing nice because she doesnt want tell me to **** off.
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
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- Thread starter Cincere
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“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Scars
Master Don Juan
BINGO!Cincere said:
Ditch this girl and spin more plates. She's your garbage. She's an ex for a reason. It may be hard after a 5 yr relationship but it's time to move on. There's also the possibility she may come back but don't make it your soul reason for dating other chicks. Do it for yourself. Meet other woman, experience life, have fun, use other girls to distract you until you get your head back on straight.
so im just reading into something thats not there. why does it seem like everything is one sided. why does it seem like she just got over me in a couple days while i have been feeling this way for months but it seems like years. how did she get over me but not me over her. i think its ****ed up that its so easy for her but it so hard for me when she ****ed me over.
Atom Smasher
Master Don Juan
A confused girl like this is always trouble. She is conflicted because she likes some aspects of you and other aspects of this other guy. She wishes she could make one perfect man out of both of you.
My advice:
1) Re-read your original post
2) Read your signature
3) Re-read Scar's post
4) Re-read your signature
4) Go out and implement Scar's post. He is dead-on.
5) Keep re-reading your signature.
My advice:
1) Re-read your original post
2) Read your signature
3) Re-read Scar's post
4) Re-read your signature
4) Go out and implement Scar's post. He is dead-on.
5) Keep re-reading your signature.
"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.
Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
when one person ditches another... it doesnt usually happen overnight. she was probably losing interest for some time. so by time she made the move, while it was new for you... she was well over you. I'm sorry. things are never even steven... someone always hurts more, cares more, loves more, etc etc.
But the real question is: WHO CARES that it is easy for her? Read SCARS post, and get busy my friend. Good luck
But the real question is: WHO CARES that it is easy for her? Read SCARS post, and get busy my friend. Good luck
every one keeps telling me she be back, she just wants to have fun and make sure your the one for her but im like **** that. i dont think i want her anymore. she willing to throw 5 yrs away to have fun. **** that im out. if she does come back later in the future. i will hurt her feelings.
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Joe Stud
Master Don Juan
she isnt coming back. having fun usually supercedes coming back. im sorry... again. get some gasoline, burn the bridge, and chase some women. there are 3 billion females in the world, start hitting on number 2.
I would just let her go. I almost put myself in that situation. But I followed the NC challenge which helped me. Although I missed her, I came to realize that we would have crashed and burned either way. If we would have reconciled, I believe that tipping point would have spilled again. Just my two cents.
"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"
You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.
She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.
Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.
Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.