"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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trouble with starting and lasting conversation

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ROOKIE OF THE YEAR

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I know this is i site to get women, but i have a bigger issue. I have a really difficult time finding friends. I am from college and I not ugly. I'm just like an every person if all you DJ understand what i mean.

I cant start and keep conversations going. maybe becuz i dont talk a lot. Sometimes when i make some friends, i was afraid that they'll find out i dont have much friends and they'll think im a loser, which i know im not. Also, i dont know when is the best time and place to find some friends.

Any help or suggestions? I really want to change.
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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chancer

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Honestly... guys don't care how many friends you have. If you run into some dude, and there's nothing to talk about so be it. Maybe next time you'll both be interested in some girl's fake titties. um.. Talk about topics you're interested in. In general, don't worry about what they think of you. You don't need approval from anyone.

Alright... Now where to meet new friends: your classes, campus, clubs, fraternity's, work, friends of friends (big one). Just say what's up, ask questions, and don't be afraid to say whatever.
 
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Buddy,

I know where you coming from. Hey lets face it in reality lots of people have aquitances, very few people have true friends they can rely on, maybe one or two at the most. So I really think your in the same boat as everyone else.

Who really cares what they think ?. Sometimes it worth rehearsing in your mind a set of open ended questions so when you do meet someone you know what to say. Do a search on www.google.com for the words "rapport" and "open ended questions". Alot of the information is already on the internet and books can be rather pricey.

Anyway you got some mates here on the Don Juan discussion forum so you got nothing to be concerned about. ;)


Originally posted by ROOKIE OF THE YEAR
I know this is i site to get women, but i have a bigger issue. I have a really difficult time finding friends. I am from college and I not ugly. I'm just like an every person if all you DJ understand what i mean.

I cant start and keep conversations going. maybe becuz i dont talk a lot. Sometimes when i make some friends, i was afraid that they'll find out i dont have much friends and they'll think im a loser, which i know im not. Also, i dont know when is the best time and place to find some friends.

Any help or suggestions? I really want to change.
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