"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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Trouble with meeting expectations.

Darth

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I’m not a whiner so this is not really like me. But have to blow off some steam I’m 25 turning 26 middle of this year. So far I’ve failed out of 2 major jobs going back to 2013 and one graduate degree program. The reason for all three failures is that my bosses (or grad. program head) were pot smokers and didn’t like me for being so square (seriously that was it). Or they had fuzzy thinking and never gave me clear expectations (which was also the case).

Whatever the reason, I am without a job again. Yeah I have some minor stuff (3 jobs) but it’s not full-time. I want a really kick a$$ sales or marketing job. I have an aggressive work ethic once I have CLEAR F-ING EXPECTATIONS. I am stable and sharp.

By the way the last job I lost, someone put a drug in my drink and I had to go to the hospital. Just par for the course but really F-ing STUPID can’t believe I’m living in 2016 with a generation of MORONS.

Sorry I don’t really mean that there are a lot of good ones. But I could not have less respect for the Baby Boomers than I do now as a whole. All 3 (actually 4 now) major opportunities I lost were because a Boomer decided they didn’t like me. A$$es.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Darth

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I want to work with someone with a soul, who claps me on the back with a warm smile and says "Good morning Darth! Here is your work today, I'd like you to get 5 things done today: 1, 2, 3, 4, and 5. Any questions? Good. Let me know if you need anything, I'll be in my office all day, and I'll let you know right away if you aren't meeting expectations. Great job, keep it up."

That would be GENUINELY encouraging but maybe I'm living in fantasy land here
 

Darth

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O wait, I just remembered I'm not a loser. Just snapped out of it, now aggressively pursuing work . . .

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Dear Darth,

Screening your jobs is like screening women. Don't go with the crazies. And finding a job is like finding a women. Elevate yourself so that they pursue you.

There are about 1 billion Indians who are paid 3 bucks an hour to do exactly what we ask them. If you love to work in a cubicle from 9 to 5 it's great to want expectations being given to you every morning.

Otherwise, learn to be creative, to have a larger vision of what a company is and what your job is and create your own signature in every task you do. Be pro-active and take responsibility. They will love you.
 
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