"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Trouble with keeping this relationship fun

noodle

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OK let me start from the begining when i met this girl.
When we were in the same class her and I. We would always tease each other, and at the time she wasn't very pretty. As time progressed and she got more style, I got more attractive to her. I would still tease her and all that sort of things. She would want a hug from me everyday after school, but I would make it a challenge for her everytime. Our relationship was really fun!

Now we just started dating, but for some reason, our relationship has lost it's spark and fun. How could i make this more fun and exciting for the both of us? She doesn't tease me anymore or anything, but i try to do it to her sometimes. We haven't even gone on a date yet(too busy) but we have kissed a couple of times already. Oh and she always wants to hang out with me. She always asks if i'm avaible or not.

Does this mean i'm doing the right thing? If not, how can i make this relationship more fun and exciting for the both of us?

Oh and another thing, why can't i be funny all the time? I've noticed that I'm only funny when i get pumped up and that sort of thing.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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noodle

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Sean O said:
How long have you known her for?
I've known her for about a year and a half. But we recently started being bf, and gf a a week and a half ago.
 

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yea i just got my first girl 2 weeks ago. Do you know how to keep it fun? dont always be avaliable, dont go out of your way to see her and most importantly, take her on interesting dates, this doesn't mean you have to spend money, just take her out once every two weeks and if you can, once a week. For e.g, when i was asking my gf to be my gf, i took her to the cinema, and then a walk by the river and asked her out there. The next wednsday i took her dancing, then i cooled things off for a bit just to make sure she doesnt think i am needy. Then this friday she came around mine and we hanged and chilled for 5 hours. Next sat i am giving her a suprise, she loves jazz and pizza, so i said to her be free next sat and i am going to take her to a resturant with live jazz(she doesn't know yet).
Its things like this that keeps a relationship fun, you must know what she like and make time for her, then suprise her.
 

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Zerotwoonenine said:
yea i just got my first girl 2 weeks ago. Do you know how to keep it fun? dont always be avaliable, dont go out of your way to see her and most importantly, take her on interesting dates, this doesn't mean you have to spend money, just take her out once every two weeks and if you can, once a week. For e.g, when i was asking my gf to be my gf, i took her to the cinema, and then a walk by the river and asked her out there. The next wednsday i took her dancing, then i cooled things off for a bit just to make sure she doesnt think i am needy. Then this friday she came around mine and we hanged and chilled for 5 hours. Next sat i am giving her a suprise, she loves jazz and pizza, so i said to her be free next sat and i am going to take her to a resturant with live jazz(she doesn't know yet).
Its things like this that keeps a relationship fun, you must know what she like and make time for her, then suprise her.

Good advice. I will use your advice and be unpredictable with her. I just gotta learn more about her first. Thanks man.

But i'm only 14, any ideas where i should take her on the first date?

Any other advice would be appreciated also.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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