Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

Read more...

Trouble with keeping this relationship fun

noodle

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 12, 2006
Messages
153
Reaction score
0
OK let me start from the begining when i met this girl.
When we were in the same class her and I. We would always tease each other, and at the time she wasn't very pretty. As time progressed and she got more style, I got more attractive to her. I would still tease her and all that sort of things. She would want a hug from me everyday after school, but I would make it a challenge for her everytime. Our relationship was really fun!

Now we just started dating, but for some reason, our relationship has lost it's spark and fun. How could i make this more fun and exciting for the both of us? She doesn't tease me anymore or anything, but i try to do it to her sometimes. We haven't even gone on a date yet(too busy) but we have kissed a couple of times already. Oh and she always wants to hang out with me. She always asks if i'm avaible or not.

Does this mean i'm doing the right thing? If not, how can i make this relationship more fun and exciting for the both of us?

Oh and another thing, why can't i be funny all the time? I've noticed that I'm only funny when i get pumped up and that sort of thing.

Any suggestions would be greatly appreciated!
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

Read more...

noodle

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 12, 2006
Messages
153
Reaction score
0
Sean O said:
How long have you known her for?
I've known her for about a year and a half. But we recently started being bf, and gf a a week and a half ago.
 

Zerotwoonenine

Senior Don Juan
Joined
Apr 20, 2006
Messages
450
Reaction score
5
Location
London
yea i just got my first girl 2 weeks ago. Do you know how to keep it fun? dont always be avaliable, dont go out of your way to see her and most importantly, take her on interesting dates, this doesn't mean you have to spend money, just take her out once every two weeks and if you can, once a week. For e.g, when i was asking my gf to be my gf, i took her to the cinema, and then a walk by the river and asked her out there. The next wednsday i took her dancing, then i cooled things off for a bit just to make sure she doesnt think i am needy. Then this friday she came around mine and we hanged and chilled for 5 hours. Next sat i am giving her a suprise, she loves jazz and pizza, so i said to her be free next sat and i am going to take her to a resturant with live jazz(she doesn't know yet).
Its things like this that keeps a relationship fun, you must know what she like and make time for her, then suprise her.
 

noodle

Don Juan
Joined
Aug 12, 2006
Messages
153
Reaction score
0
Zerotwoonenine said:
yea i just got my first girl 2 weeks ago. Do you know how to keep it fun? dont always be avaliable, dont go out of your way to see her and most importantly, take her on interesting dates, this doesn't mean you have to spend money, just take her out once every two weeks and if you can, once a week. For e.g, when i was asking my gf to be my gf, i took her to the cinema, and then a walk by the river and asked her out there. The next wednsday i took her dancing, then i cooled things off for a bit just to make sure she doesnt think i am needy. Then this friday she came around mine and we hanged and chilled for 5 hours. Next sat i am giving her a suprise, she loves jazz and pizza, so i said to her be free next sat and i am going to take her to a resturant with live jazz(she doesn't know yet).
Its things like this that keeps a relationship fun, you must know what she like and make time for her, then suprise her.

Good advice. I will use your advice and be unpredictable with her. I just gotta learn more about her first. Thanks man.

But i'm only 14, any ideas where i should take her on the first date?

Any other advice would be appreciated also.
 

"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

Read more...

Top