Trouble showing intimacy with girls in front of others...

[solo1]

I realized i cant be me or flirty around a girl if there are others around. Especially if it's during class or a similar social setting.

Am i fear of humiliation/rejection? perhaps.
Am i afraid they might think im a player? probably that too. Which just makes me look bad in front of other girls if i were to ever game them.

I find it easier for me to do it if im secluded with just the girl or if there are less ppl around...especially those that dont know me.

It's not the chatting that im afraid of. It's the intimacy/flirting/teasing...# closing with them if ppl are around.
how do i overcome this?

 

[flexion_]

Its just practice. You worry too much about what others think of you. Its pretty normal to be that way though - if there is a girl you like you need to tune out the rest of the world and just zoom into her. Focus on her like you two are alone and go from there.

That ability to tune others out will get you noticed too.

 

[stalluproar]

When you are in a social setting with many people around, subtle kino will go a long way and build lots of sexual tension. For example if you meet a girl and shake her hand, comment on how weak she shakes your hand. Tell her to be firmer and shake her hand again. Then tell her that a she can't beat you at thumb wars since she didn't shake your hand right. This is a good start. Then beat her and stop. Talk for a bit and leave, but get her info and she more than likely will be naturally flirty with you the second time (and you should have her alone). Don't try to do too much too fast. If she is around her friends, make some C&F comments that make her friends laugh. The lesson is to build tension around her friends and relieve some of it when alone.