Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
Scars said:Noted.
Me and the other moderators are working on cleaning things up.
Unfortunately, only Allen has the power to ban (as far as I know.) So all bans must go through him.
He will be notified and hopefully you will start seeing changes soon.
-Scars
I believe there are a few mods who have the ability to ban.Scars said:Noted.
Me and the other moderators are working on cleaning things up.
Unfortunately, only Allen has the power to ban (as far as I know.) So all bans must go through him.
He will be notified and hopefully you will start seeing changes soon.
-Scars
You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.
For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.
Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.
The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.
Quiksilver said:I believe there are a few mods who have the ability to ban.
However, posting members names here whom you do not like--for whatever reason--will result in some stiff penalties. (Take that as a friendly caution).
If you take issue with any member--troll or otherwise--then send a PM to a Mod or Report a post.
Spammers get nuked on sight, and trolls who receive numerous Reports/PMs get surgically removed from the forum.
Scars said:Noted.
Me and the other moderators are working on cleaning things up.
Unfortunately, only Allen has the power to ban (as far as I know.) So all bans must go through him.
He will be notified and hopefully you will start seeing changes soon.
-Scars
Scars said:Gsp I am not singling you out. But I myself have seen a troll problem. Like I said, Allen will be made aware of this soon. If you don't want to be banned, then post things relevant to the topic. Try to contribute to the community.
-Scars
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Eh, I haven't contributed much to the community in years!Scars said:Gsp I am not singling you out. But I myself have seen a troll problem. Like I said, Allen will be made aware of this soon. If you don't want to be banned, then post things relevant to the topic. Try to contribute to the community.
-Scars
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.