"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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Tried street approaches - got blown out

SoSerene

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...maybe this isn't my thing? I could barely get into conversations with 2/3 of the girls, they were always busy/on their way somewhere. I realize some of those are just made up excuses by them, but I literally had a tough time getting them to stop to chat. And yes, I was being coached along the way so it's not like I was using retarded indirect approaches like "Do you know where _____" etc. It just didn't work out at all for me.

I have picked up some attractive girls before (the once in a blue moon I approached), but they were always in more subdued situations like retail workers, or someone inside a store. Has anyone else found much better results from approaching girls in a store/mall who aren't busy at all compared to girls walking to and from where on the street? I feel like I should just give up on the street pickup game as I got absolutely nowhere and focus on easier environments for myself.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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dosquito

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The colder your approach, the more handsome you need to be. Basically.
 

Pimp-sicle

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So you admit that you don't cold approach regularly esp on the street and you get blown out one day and want to quit?

More girls for the rest of us then, if you that's your attitude.

What were some of the opener's you were using? What was your body language, tone of voice like? Were you confident when you approached? Did you approach from behind, the side, or directly walking towards them?

The point I'm getting at, is understand that when you approach and you get rejected, the girl is rejecting your OPENER more so than rejecting you flat out.

Fix your opener, and girls will happily engage in conversation with you & you will see success.









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Vice

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Back before I turned 21 I had to learn how to do cold daytime approaches. Some went very well, some went mediocre, and only a few went awkwardly.

You need to keep trying. And you need to be direct. It also helps to wander around and be social to EVERYONE you encounter, instead of just wandering around in your head like a little troll, and then pouncing on a cute girl after you spent 20 minutes talking in your head.

One of be best (almost) successes came when this girl from LA was wandering a local mall near me, and I followed her into a store and got her number, and had her invite me to a bar. Unfortunately I was too inexperienced to realize the hint, and I told her that I needed to study. I ended up going to the bar and not being able to get in because I was under 21, so that night I netted out less studying, gas money wasted, little sleep, and no getting laid. It happens
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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