"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Tricky Tricky, please help

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Tricky Tricky

Hi, again everyone !
I met this girl in my work, she is one of the most beautiful girl that I ever know. I didn't talk to her much, but we talk I always being ****y funny, and we flirt a lot and she keep checking my a$$....
I know that she likes me.

She is a jealous woman, as I not only flirt with her, I also flirt with other woman in the office, several time she just got a bit angry and ran away...And I just leave her alone...So, maybe she think that I am a player, which she is not happy about...

Now what happen is, she went away for a few days, and there is rumor(generated from his ex's friends) that someone saw me gone out with another woman for one night stand in a club while she is away, which is untrue. And she and all of her friends (females) are hated me now (Not even talk or look at me). I don't want to go and explain the whole thing that 'this is just a trap, you ex just to want you back', as it's makes me look stupid.

She bought a mobile resently, but I don't think she'll give her number to me, now...

What should I do ? Please give me suggestions. Thanks.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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show her your a$$.
 

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well don't just sit there letting everyone think it's true ya moron! if you really like her, approach her and tell her the truth.

say: "look, there's some rumors going on about me and i know it's effecting us, but it's all lies. i don't have to apologize to you or anyone because it's not true. that's all i can say. i enjoy talking to you and i like you, but if you don't believe me, then that's your problem and i can't do anything about it."

just tell her the truth bro. it's not true right? so tell her!
 

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Don't worry about it. Don't worry about any stupid rumours that circulate about your sex life.

This happened all the time around some men I knew when I worked in a big corporation, and you know what - it only made them MORE popular with the women because it gave them a hint of 'badness'.

So just chill out and go for it with this woman if you want to.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Thanks a lot.

The trouble is that she don't think I like her...
How should I show it ? I am a bit shy. Everyone is looking a me while I am talking to her because I know I am the hottest guy in the office, and she is the hottest girl in the office...
Should I just tell her best female friend that I like her...
(Talk or write a note?)
It's seems that she's afraid to get hurt and trying to aviod to see or talk to me, everytime I go and try to chat with her, she just find some excuse to go away. And she's now aways talking on her mobile and seems to be busy...
Hard to approach.
Any advice ? suggestions ?

Two ways of showing her that I like her and get respond at once...
1) give her a note
This will what I am going to write to her...And may give it to her/ her friend

When I 1st met you I am afraid to talk to you
When I 1st talk to you I am afraid to like you
Now that I like you, I am afraid to tell you...
Now it's your time to choose
I should be 'dead' or 'alive'...
My mobile no..

2) Talk to her friend and tell that I like her, and see what should I do...

Any suggestsions ?
What should I do ??
 

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I am afraid that too sudden and freak her out...And she don't know how to deal with it and just say 'no' and remember she a bit angry of me because of the rumor (please read tricky tricky post) I need to calm her down 1st....Slowly slowly not to surpise her....
 

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Don't tell her you like her. Don't tell her friend you like her. Don't write a note saying you like her.

Show her you like her by getting her number. If you don't think she'll give it to you because she thinks you're a player, then do what Tails says, and tell her that the rumors aren't true, and that she shouldn't judge you before she gets to know you better.

Never confess your feelings to a woman, you'll scare her off. Show her you're interested by taking action.
 

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I need an excuse to get her no....
Remember these points :
1) We work on different department....
2) She's hot, ie, lots of guys are kissing her a$$
3) She's angry with me + her friends + try to avoid me, therefore we did't see much
4) She don't think i like her

How should do I get her no ? (What excuse ?)
When ? (I front of her friends ? When she's alone ?)
Hey, and yea, she's angry (Steaming, I can feel her tears in her eyes is almost coming out when I last saw her 2 days ago. When she see me now she just run away !)
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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If she didn't like you at all she wouldn't be upset/angry over a silly rumor. Go talk to her while she's alone. If she brings up the rumor tell her it isn't true. I would show absolutely no sign that the rumor had any effect.
 

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I found out a good way to make sure very attractive women you know a little will take good notice of you:

When you are walking in a crowded area and shes in the way just tell her : "Out of my way" instead of the "oh please step aside little princess". Make sure to let her know she`s nothing to you.

Not nothing as in you do not care, nothing as in an innate unexistant spec of dust that doesnt deserve any special treatment.
 

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Something I forgot to tell...
I heard that she talk to her friends about me...
She said she don't think I like her...She think that if I like her I would told her that I like her...And right, she know my personality is straight forward, but she don't know not in this case....
And I know she might change her target to someone else...
I need to sort it out quick....ie quick solutions to break the ice and go out with her...
 

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Now, I saw a guy take her to work yesterday....
Should I really talk to her friends about it now ??
Will it be too late ?
What should I do ?
 

"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"

Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."

You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.

She's been waiting forty minutes.

Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.

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I need to make my move ASAP to let her know that I like her... how ?
 

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First of all, calm down. You are caring way too much about how this turns out. You probably shouldn't date a woman from work anyway.



If you can tell she's upset with you, then, yes, you probably should calm her down. Definitely better to isolate her. Try and talk to her alone. Confidently approach her and tell her that you noticed she seems upset with you. Get her to tell you why she is upset (don't make verbal assumptions). She'll feel better towards you if you can get her to admit that there is something bothering her. Then, you can tell her the rumors aren't true, and proceed to get her phone #. And why should you need an excuse to get her number? Just tell her you'd like to get together with her sometime and get to know her better.

Get her to admit that she's upset with you, and tell you why. This will break the ice, and diffuse her negative feelings.
 
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please dont write stuff like " dead or alive " and all that, you will come out as a really desperate guy, and even if by chance she starts talking to you again, she will always have the upper hand.
 

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Originally posted by Tails
say: "look, there's some rumors going on about me and i know it's effecting us, but it's all lies. i don't have to apologize to you or anyone because it's not true. that's all i can say. i enjoy talking to you and i like you, but if you don't believe me, then that's your problem and i can't do anything about it."
Yes or just hand her your balls and tell her to suck them, will work just as good.
 

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You can skip the expensive cars, the fancy clothes, and the endless gym selfies. Completely unnecessary.

I used to freeze the second a beautiful woman looked my way. Frustrated. Awkward. Watching other guys walk away with the girl while I stood there tongue-tied.

Then I discovered 22 simple rules that rewired my entire dating life. The anxiety vanished. Conversations flowed effortlessly. Women started chasing me for a change.

These rules trigger a woman's subconscious attraction switches. And you can start using them tonight.

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