Unforsaken
Don Juan
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Your bending the rules for her. I hope you notice that. Your cutting slack, because she has a b/f. In other words, your deciding with your heart not your mind.
"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."
Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Tricky situation
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Your bending the rules for her. I hope you notice that. Your cutting slack, because she has a b/f. In other words, your deciding with your heart not your mind.
"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
PuertoRican_Lover
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A girl who has a boyfriend said this to a guy whom she is cheating with!!
The cheating ho wants your loyalty!? Huh!!!
Of course she wants you to only SMS - she can read them in silence and then delete them without her man knowing that he has a liar and a hor for a g/f!!
MindOverMatter
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Listen man, you can't ever drop your game and act AFC even for a second unless you've been dating the broad for a couple of months and trust her completly. Even then it's a bad idea to do it.
I know some guys will find a girl they really like and refuse to game her at all out of respect. They will think she's nice or sweet or some other thing like that and to reward that behaviour, they will act a little AFCish in order to make her feel comfortable. This is a classic rookie mistake. Never drop your game. If you really like a girl, you will game her just the same as some girl you only wanna sleep with - at least for the first 2 months.
What you said was good, except for the "u wont b sorry" part. That part of the quote made it seem like you were trying too hard to let the girl know she will have a good time. It's called desperate salesmenship. The harder a salesman tries to convince you something is good for you, the more suspicious you will be. Think about it.
Good luck.
silverwex
Master Don Juan
Mindovermatter:
Thanks for the great reply.
To tell ya the truth, something just hit me while reading your post:
I act AFC-ish while texting a girl but while Im actually in her company im DJ through and through!
I know that above statement is hard to believe after youve been reading this post but its the truth. I was C+F with her, i teased her, i joked about with her, i made her laugh and I got a MASSIVE amount of kino in on her (kissing all the way up the inside of her leg til i reached the top...!)
THe only thing is that i wont see her for another 2 weeks so the only way to communicate with her is via SMS
But once i see her in the flesh ill be the DJ i love to be!
thoughts?
Thanks for the great reply.
To tell ya the truth, something just hit me while reading your post:
I act AFC-ish while texting a girl but while Im actually in her company im DJ through and through!
I know that above statement is hard to believe after youve been reading this post but its the truth. I was C+F with her, i teased her, i joked about with her, i made her laugh and I got a MASSIVE amount of kino in on her (kissing all the way up the inside of her leg til i reached the top...!)
THe only thing is that i wont see her for another 2 weeks so the only way to communicate with her is via SMS
But once i see her in the flesh ill be the DJ i love to be!
thoughts?
“The 22 Rules That Flip the Script With Women… And How You Can Use Them Tonight”
Most guys accidentally kill attraction before they even speak. They assume they need a bigger bank account, a better physique, or smoother lines. They miss the point.
Female desire operates on a specific set of psychological triggers. Break them, and you're invisible. Follow them, and you become magnetic.
I learned this the hard way. Years of freezing up. Getting friend-zoned. Watching other guys walk away with the girl I wanted. Then I discovered a set of 22 simple rules that rewired my entire approach.
Austin Allegro
Master Don Juan
Silverwex, for God's sake, stop texting. I know it is popular in the UK/Ireland, which is precisely the reason you SHOULDN'T be doing it. Girls have got into the habit of constant texting, and expecting a reply immediately. I
It's just another method of controlling AFC men. If you meet someone you like, get their number, SPEAK to them, set up a date and leave it. No 'how r u?' messages etc etc.
If a woman is interested, this will drive her crazy with desire because you are being unavailable and causing her emotional rollercoaster to go into overdrive ('why isn't he texting me????'). It shows you are independent and don't need constant contact.
It sounds like this woman wants assurance that you're there waiting for her should she ditch this other guy. Just show you've got other options and are not waiting around.
If it doesn't work - who cares. She probably just wants an AFC under her thumb, so just move on.
It's just another method of controlling AFC men. If you meet someone you like, get their number, SPEAK to them, set up a date and leave it. No 'how r u?' messages etc etc.
If a woman is interested, this will drive her crazy with desire because you are being unavailable and causing her emotional rollercoaster to go into overdrive ('why isn't he texting me????'). It shows you are independent and don't need constant contact.
It sounds like this woman wants assurance that you're there waiting for her should she ditch this other guy. Just show you've got other options and are not waiting around.
If it doesn't work - who cares. She probably just wants an AFC under her thumb, so just move on.