Tricky Situation

[seasonedplayer]

I recently met a chick that has just got out of a long-term relationship. I also believe (not certain) she is currently having a fling with a married man from work.

Anyway, I went on 2 dates with her that went really well but she made it clear that she wasn't interested in something serious at the moment. I ditcher her after that.

Then around 1 month later she called up and I went on another date and she essentially told me 'I like you but give me more more time.' I originally interpreted both instances as outright rejections. However, i actually believe she likes me but is not at a stage where she wants a boyfriend.

Question is now; do I ditch her and hope that she calls me out of the blue in a month or so? Or do I email her from time to time and stay in touch with her occassionally? Do I take her out in a casual way for daytime action date? I am of course conscious of not falling into the 'friend' trap.

 

[_XT_]

I had a similar situation to this.
If you like her just go along with it for now if you have no other options, and if things don't look promising after a few weeks, bail!

 

[seasonedplayer]

that's what i've been doing for the last few days. should i keep it casual? daytime action date? what happened in your situation?

 

[_XT_]

Mine didn't work out, we are still friends though. She still calls me once in a blue moon.
Girls want some time after a LTR, she is probably seeing if you are the right guy for her next relationship.
Just keep it casual for now, if she wants to get serious I'm sure she'll let you know.

 

[PuertoRican_Lover]

This girl has you on reserves - you may be the next pimp in line - do not initiate contact, it would only weaken your position!!!