"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Treat her like a dude...

iluvfemales

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I read an article on this site a while ago. It said that if you treat a women thats really attractive like a guy then it makes the first approach easier.
I kept this in mind when I hit on girls in my college. I relized that the benifit from this mentaility is that you focus less on the sexual part of the women and more on the personality. Because of this you become more genuine which she reconizes in your tone and body language.
To add to this I also read an article in mens fitness which said that when a male gets nervous around a female by making up fake situations in his head (like assuming she doesn't like you) that the part of your brain that is used in planning situations and communication get closed off. It is the byproduct of lust.
By pretending like shes a guy in my own mind I was able to have much more causual conversations with girls, come up with more topics and be more spontaneous.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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You're just covering up for your fear of talking to women. If you're treating girls you're interested in like "dudes", you're not going to be approaching them the right way.

You're using this behaviour as a bandaid. Instead of covering up the problem, fix it.
 

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Thats good point but I tend to work through situations by proving to my mind that if it doesn't kill you, then it makes you stronger. I liked this stratgy because it help give an initial push which helps to get over the fear.
 

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To me it sounds more like a strategy for finding an LTR than a ONS, it all depends on the type of girl I suppose. Good luck.
 

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This works for the more aggressive women out there. When I mean aggressive, I mean tomboy - I mean women who are the first to grab the microphone at a karaoke contest.

Aggressive women appreciate directness and being to the point, much like a man. Unfortunately they exist in less than 15% of women population.

Each women is different, so treat them differently.
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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