I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Love it thanks where are you?* Each country would have its own uber. It's yandex for Russia. Bolt for Europe. Something else for South America and the Caribbean. Find out what it is and install and register before hand.
* In each country get a proper eSIM and store it on your phone long term. So that you can receive SMS in the future. This is highly useful for registering online accounts, for example additional telegram or google or facebook or whatsapp. Go with eSIM's which won't expire if you don't pay, so long as you turn them on once couple of months.
* Get a proper world wide cell phone plan with internet and stuff.
* Find out how people dress in your target country and dress accordingly. Don't look like a tourist.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
So do they email the taxi to you in Russia? Do you search where you want to go and you're magically there?* Each country would have its own uber. It's yandex for Russia. Bolt for Europe. Something else for South America and the Caribbean. Find out what it is and install and register before hand.
* In each country get a proper eSIM and store it on your phone long term. So that you can receive SMS in the future. This is highly useful for registering online accounts, for example additional telegram or google or facebook or whatsapp. Go with eSIM's which won't expire if you don't pay, so long as you turn them on once couple of months.
* Get a proper world wide cell phone plan with internet and stuff.
* Find out how people dress in your target country and dress accordingly. Don't look like a tourist.
I'm your neighbor!Love it thanks where are you?