"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Some chicks tell me "If I wasn't taken, I'd be your girlfriend." But why the hell would one need to know something like that? Right now you're taken! You may not dump that dude until 5 years pass.

Can anybody translate the above quote?
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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How about "I wanna be your girlfriend." I might be wrong.
 

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How about - "I like you but you just haven't given me enough proof that you're the bigger, better deal which would convince me to leave my man."
 

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The Bad Ass Canadian said:
How about - "I like you but you just haven't given me enough proof that you're the bigger, better deal which would convince me to leave my man."
good stuff:)
 

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how about, "i'm a hor!" as you are typing out your lame question she is gagging on her bf's meat stick. you guys must be really ugly, really poor, really unpopular, and really dumb. not a good combination.
 

“The 22 Psychological Triggers That Make Women Chase You… Starting Tonight”

Forget the cash, the cars, and the chiseled jawlines. Female desire operates on a completely different frequency. Primal. Subconscious. Triggers that bypass her logic and hit her on a gut level. Most guys are totally blind to them.

I know because I was one of them. The overthinking. The paralysis. The silent drive home kicking yourself for freezing up. Watching average guys walk away with the girl while you stood there stuck in your own head.

Then I decoded the psychology behind what actually makes women tick. 22 hard rules.  Subtle behavioral shifts that rewired my entire reality. The anxiety evaporated. Women started leaning in. Investing. Chasing.

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The Bad Ass Canadian said:
How about - "I like you but you just haven't given me enough proof that you're the bigger, better deal which would convince me to leave my man."
That is one possibility.

She may want you to step up to the plate so she can feel the taste of the forbidden fruit and thus feel guilt free if you make the first move.

However that may not always be the case. I remember in my AFC days, a girl who I was a friend with told me after I confided to her that I liked her (big no no) that and I quate: "if I wasn't in a relationship, I would be with you, and I am not just saying that".

It turned out she was just saying that to keep me around, giving me false hopes and use me as a surrgoate boyfriend.

Be aware.
 

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DJDamage and Bad ass Canadian, thanks for those great answers. Next time I get that thrown at me, I'll know what to do, and the answer to that is to NOT back down!
 
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To me thats just a dressed up "lets just be friends."

"If I wasn't taken, I'd be your girlfriend..." = "But I am taken, so lets just be friends." My 2 cents.
 

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nismo-4 said:
DJDamage and Bad ass Canadian, thanks for those great answers. next time I get that thrown at me, I'll know what to do, and the answer to that is to NOT back down!
you are weak. you simply agree with what you wanted to hear. worse than a troll because you are stealing people's time.
 

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aldaris said:
you are weak. you simply agree with what you wanted to hear. worse than a troll because you are stealing people's time.
I just had to understand things and I needed a little advice. Stop being a pessimistic jerk-off and start giving advice! Flaming ain't cool either. :nono:

I thank you too for your advice Eccentric. After I hear a variant of LJBF, I say "I have enough friends, buh bye!"
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Sounds to me like she's saying:

I find you attractive however I am currently seeing someone.

Aka, exactly what she said. It is impossible to determine if she would cheat or not. If you want to, give it a shot. If not, don't.
 

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"If I wasn't taken, I'd be your girlfriend."

Whatever - like it's up to her alone. She's not the only one who has a part in that decision. Next time, scoff at her, "oh please - you mean you'd try to be."
 

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I think it means that she has a boyfriend, and since she's happy and committed to him, she's in a place where she can speak freely and honestly to you. She's telling you you're a great guy.
 

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anytime a woman says something like this she is trying to get a reaction from you to prove to herself that you are less of a man than she is currently dating.

a proper response would be," If you were a little cuter, i might have allowed it "

whenever a woman says something that completely fvcks with your head, that automatically gives you permission to fvck with her head just as much. dont be afraid to qualify her.
 

"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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Mr. Me said:
She's telling you you're a great guy.
And that means I'll never see her naked.

BTW, Recluce

"If you were a little cuter, i might have allowed it" I love it! Solid gold! :up:
 
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Just to add to this, I personally would try to stop worrying what she means. Whatever she means, think about what you want from her and your interactions in general. Are you ok with cheating etc? Then, whatever you want, be open about it. We could be here all day guessing what she means. If you want her, convince her that she wants you - sell yourself. Show up at her door like the milkman and try to sell her some carpet cleaner.

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