Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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Mike32ct

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Hey guys.

I met this chick online from Match. We've emailed and then texted a bit. She seems quite interested. She texted me the following tonight:

MatchChick: "So this is gonna sound weird... It says on your match page you are not looking for anything serious. This true? I'm in a weird situation and was looking for a possible distraction. r u up 4 meeting sometime?

Mike: Yes and yes.

MatchChick: Cool... when r u free to meet?

Anyway, we're gonna meet up for a drink Thursday. I was planning on meeting her anyway.

So she seems fine with the "nothing serious" thing. She's 31 by the way.

Could you guys translate the , "I'm in a weird situation and was looking for a possible distraction" piece?

I think I know what that means, but wanted some input and advice.

I don't do a lot of online game, so it's not my expertise.

Thanks.
 

"She Wants a Man, Not a Boy"

You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.

Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.

Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.

Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.

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I'm gonna have to go with married/'in a relationship,' too. Possible low interest for someone else?

It could be something less than that; either way, I'd roll with it 'til I know for sure.
 

Alex DeLarge

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Probably in a relationship without sex, or in a fight with her current partner / about to leave him and needs to get off?

Seems like a sticky situation. Usually when a chick wants NSA sex, it is.

.. Or maybe her weird situation is that you're not ****ing her brains out right that second. Lol. :cool:
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Whether she is married or have a boyfriend.. The sure thing is she is getting bored with some one or having problem with some one and she wants to unwind or get away together with you.

Now your job is to make her forget that and give her a non stressful fun day. Make her feel safe but do flirt and do some kino. But dont show any sexual intentions unless she is the 1st one who flash it.
 

3countriesPlan

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Shes down to f probably, of course it could just be a internet flaker h0 getting off on the attention, you'll know after you meet.
 

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Yes this is a confusing one.

You should probably just give me her number and let me evaluate her in person.
 

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Thanks everybody. I first suggested a bar at a town next to hers. She counter-offered with a bar in a town next to mine.

If I can F-close this chick, maybe I'll just get a hotel room. She lives in a two-family house with her sister so we can't go back to her place. Plus if she is dating someone, I'd rather not show her where I live.

Should I just kino and fool around a bit on date one and try to close on date two?

Or just try for a full close on date 1?

I've done ONS from bars, but not yet from online. Although from what I read they aren't uncommon.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Hey Mike,

Good work. Really looking forward to the update. By the way Vegas all worked out beautifully - your tips helped a lot. I'll PM you.

Espi - that story about screwing the girl in her 5-series is legendary!
 

Mike32ct

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Exactly. My guess is she really was taken. She was probably feeling horny and considering cheating when she suggested the date. Then she either got cold feet about the cheating part or her bf gave it to her good the night before lol.

Regardless, I nexted her.

Thanks for everyone's input.
 

Yo'Mama

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Sorry that didn't work out Mike. She sounds like an idiot. Onwards and upwards.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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women haze

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God women are........so trashy these days *sigh* what are you gonna do
 

Yo'Mama

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I swear, these types of experience are almost the norm for me. Since I split up with my LTR (who I have to say I didn't appreciate enough at the time) 95% of the women I've met have just been trash. I would never have believed there were so many garbage women out there.
 

Mike32ct

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Yeah it should be Flake.com lol. Before I came to SS, I spent years thinking there was something wrong with me. I'd get flaked on and blame myself. But hearing from other guys on here, I see how common it is. As such, I don't take it personally.

I've gotten cold feet about dates too, but I never flaked on anyone. Once I agree to something, I show up.

It's ok though. I have bigger fish to fry. Online is something I only dabble in these days. I prefer to meet women while traveling. That's more my specialty. I have a business trip coming up.

Thanks again guys.
 
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