"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Transition from conversation to kissing, help pls!

Cassify

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Hey guys.
So , as the title suggests, i'm failing pretty hard on this point...the drop of the water was when i lost a girl that was - really - into me because i didn't know when/how to do it, that made me feel really bad.
So i came here to ask you guys, how you guys do this transition from a conversation to kissing!?

P.S: Assume that she is into you and enjoying the conversation.
 

"She Liked You in March. It's October Now."

Attraction runs on a clock.

She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.

The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."

One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.

Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.

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LOB THAT FVCKING SH!T!

I've only had ONE rejection doing it out of the blue. Trust me. Just do it.

A kiss is not the end goal, it's the first step.
 

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Do you mean the specific moment? Or how to get to the situation? It sounds really cliche, but all I can say is when you both feel it, it kind of just happens. I feel the best approach is when your both nervous and you ask her if it's ok to kiss her. This should usually happen after you guys are holding hands or do other touching first.

You have to remember that both of you are in the same boat. Don't feel intimidated because your the one that has to make the move. And rarely is the situation perfect. It will be a sloppy/messy kiss but that kiss alone will drive your confidence ten fold
 

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Touch her hair and look into her eyes. Any girl who will let you do that will kiss you. Older seduction material calls the move "the kiss test."
 

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Nickface said:
Do you mean the specific moment? Or how to get to the situation?
well i'm pretty lost, so if anyone could give me a insight on the specific moment - if there's one - or how to get the girl into the mood to decrease my chances of getting rejected, that would be great.
 

"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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I can second the hair touch/held eye contact. The best way to do it is to be spontaneous and make it fun. I find the more "serious" it is, the less success I've had. I normally try to do it after some fun and laughing. My last attempt was actually rejected but I feel like I nailed it anyway. Was some playful pushing and play fighting and she was laughing and smiling, I just hooked an arm around her waist and pulled her right into me and went for the kiss. That's worked for me on many occasions but I think this chick has another guy on the scene. Can't win em all!

EDIT: On reducing the chance of getting rejected: I don't think this is the correct mindset. Don't fear rejection. Rejection is just the answer you get. Always assume a woman is interested until she tells you otherwise. Remember, you're not trying to win the girl, she's trying to win you.
 

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If I'm sitting beside them, I just begin touching their hand, hair, neck, ears, etc. without breaking conversational stride. If she doesn't say anything about that, or (even better) responds by playing with my hands or something, then I either kiss her sitting down or say "stand up, I'm going to kiss you." I love it when the first kiss is standing up, so I can tower over her and hold her like a damn man.
 

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Last time I kiss a girl was when I told her "we are going to my favourite spot to kiss you". We went to my favourite spot and I kissed her.
 

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As soon as she touches you, it's on... little tap on the hand when talking, bumping into you when walking between venues etc, basically any contact initiated by her (excluding a full on slap of course) she's basically saying, if you're a f'kin man you'll know I want to be kissed!!!.. and possibly more.

Get in close (and you can pull this off early if there's attraction, don't wait till the end of the night) and just do it, like a man should.

No need to bother with all the caressing of hair shenanigans... she's just thinking at that point why hasn't this ***** kissed me yet??

Save that crap till ya going out...

Come on, does James Bond get all girly with his biatches hair?

Seriously ;))
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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