Why "Whatever You Want" Keeps You Single

She says the movie looks dumb; you suddenly agree. She tests you with a little attitude; you apologize for nothing.

You think you're being easy to get along with. She reads something else entirely: a man with no edges. Nothing to hold on to. No friction, no tension, no reason to wonder what he really thinks.

The "22 Rules" taught me to push back — playfully, calmly, without needing her approval. Strange things happened after that.

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transforming c+f to a relationship

notlookin4love

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Hey I'm the new guy here and I just wanted to say hello to everyone before I ask my first question on here. Ok now I can make a girl laugh and most people in general and I can really do it good to girl and I can get all ****y and show my confident side but I have no idea how to expand that into a bf/gf relationship. With me being able to be c+f how do I get the girl to be with me?
 

"She's Out of Your League"

You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.

Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.

She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.

Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.

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Desdinova

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I'm trying to figure out exactly what you're asking. If you're wondering if you can be c/f in a relationship, the answer is YES and it'll keep your relationship fun and exciting.

If you're wondering how to turn a STR into a LTR using c/f, you're using the wrong method. Have a serious sit down talk with her about it, and what you're wanting. If she doesn't want a LTR, either ditch her, or continue having a STR with her.
 

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I see all of you guys were confused about what I'm asking I don't understand how but I'll explain it again. Ok now when I talk to a girl I can be ****y and funny and all that good stuff BUT I was wondering how I take that and make a bf/gf relationship out of it. Usually I just end up being the guy that can make her laugh but not get any further than that.
 

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in other words your like most of us chumps that first come here.


READ THE BIBLE!!!
READ THE TIPS FORUM!
READ THE ARCHIVES!
READ THE ARTICLES!




If your question is not answered in one of these, then i know you did not look through them. Just browse to find what your looking for. The information is better in those then in here
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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With c&f you have already attracted her to you.
But if you want to be in a LTR with her, attraction isn't enough.
She has to feel connected to you, so switch to rapport mode.
Keep doing playful c&f now and then to keep things interesting.
 
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