"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Transformation journal: time to be the ****ing man!

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Now is the right time, "now" is all we have innit. Background: i grew up as a shy kid, conservative, normally didn't go out, lacked social manuvers, low self esteem, crazy, kiddish, entertainingly funny.
Only untill last year or so when I discovered the self help community, I started to believe that I can change. Started reading books, listened and watched videos, analyzed stuff and tried to gather as much knowledge as I can. Always tried to learn the next big thing which could possibly change my life rather than taking action. So it has got me where i'm now.
Now: groomed myself, look good most of time, starting to love myself, have an attitude without ego, started interacting to girls in college and in general.
I'll stick to the following points:
1) don't care what others think
2) have fun and value each moment
3) talking to 2 new people everyday and engulf them in my happy state
4) visualize 15 minutes daily : confident, being sexual, treated like a vip, girls eager to talk to me, girls approach me, girls wanna **** me, i'm naked around girls and calm and relaxed in social situations. Also being the topper in my college
5) studying, following the time table.
6) Genuinely listen to what people have to say.
7) Speak louder and clearer and express in less words if possible
8) going for what I want.
9) Not taking **** nor giving or speaking ****
10) kino as quick
11) smiling only to approve and having a bright glowing face all the time.
12) head up, shoulders back, chest out a bit, walk slowly, relaxed and with intent.
13) being positive and thinking positive thoughts
14) NO watching porn and masturbating
15) Action action action.
Feel free to share your advices and opinions.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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JustWuzzle

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I have to comment on this even though this is old. I want to find this again. I agree with everything you say here. I hope you are still sticking with it.
 

RSanders219

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I really don't think masturbation is as much of a problem as this board makes it out to be, more so, it's the porn. If you masturbate once every 2 days, it's really not a problem. I really like the rest of what you have to say though.

Live fast, have fun, take life by the horns man!
 
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