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Trance like states whilst macking

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My point is this , well often as a DJ I have noticed that I go through a haze, not to dissimilar to a trance, sounds weird I know, but I think some of you will concur with me. Its like when you are at a party and there are so many girls there and you got your eye on one of them but you are mingling with guys girls chatting, dancing, laughing etc etc. Then some 3 hours later you’re making out with her on the sofa. Its then the next day that I try and recall the evenings antics and I am completely lost as to how I got to that point (making out). Which often freaks me completely, coz then I cant remember any conversation accept very basic **** like name, job and friends and that she has a fondness for VAT (vodka & tonic). The one thing I do remember is the making out bit very vividly and that she is powerfully connected to me and attracted.

Its at this point that I can see how powerful the detachment part of the chase is. Now I know I had a conversation with this girl that lasted longer than 5 minutes, but for the life of me I am unaware of its content. This has happened a few times over the years and to be honest , even with girls that I did make night stands with and future girlfriends with. I think feasibly I have perhaps reached the heady heights of DJ master, but I am sceptical because surely a DJ has to listen and digest his environment and the conversations he had as a means to recalling the events that he has had with her. He must be able to root these in his mind so that they become of use to him in future dates.

I’m just intrigued if anyone else has had these problems before, these trance like states. And NO its not because I was blind drunk or anything or high.
 

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That has happened to me multiple times and is usually clouded by alcohol and arrousment. Many times I've just sat around talked with people, then met the girl I liked on the way to the fridge and suddenly we just start making out. I have no idea how but it's cool :p
 

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Emmitt Smith wrote as book on this. It's callled the Zone. Not the Twilight Zone or the end zone, but a state where your mind or instinct just sort of takes over because of a host of mitigating factors. It's only happened to me twice in the past year.
 

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When it happens it just feels like my testosteron and feromones and generally my whole self is in zen/balance :p This never happens when I haven't drinken some though.
 

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Your drunk talking off your ass with no inhibitions....If you did that all the time you'd have chicks all over you...

The 'zen/trance' is alcohol-induced confidence....
 

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Originally posted by DankNuggs
Your drunk talking off your ass with no inhibitions....If you did that all the time you'd have chicks all over you...

The 'zen/trance' is alcohol-induced confidence....
Nono cause I ALWAYS have that confidence :) But I guess I generally give more of a fvck towards life when I drink :p
 

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I will admit that I had a drink and quite feasibly when you're having fun not necessarily macking, time seems to dissappear quite fast.

Anyway I love it, but it is only truly aquired by self belief.

Thanx for all the posts:D
 

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Well, either you've been drinking too much or something like Big Pappy said could be happening. I've never read The Zone, but I have heard of it. "The Zone" is a trance like state, where your subconscious and your instinct takes over. Your mind is relaxed but you are guided by your subconscious, and this is the "ideal" state to be. It is like going with the flow of life. You just drift and create no resistance to the moments, and time seems to just disappear, there is not much pressure so your totally at ease. When you are at ease your subconscious opens up and your Alpha brainwaves increase.

DJing has become natural, second nature to you. This could be why this is happening.

I'd like to think of it as something more spiritual like your "higher self" guiding you, but the physical manifestation is that you are really in a trance like state when you are more in tune with your instinct and just so relaxed that your subconscious is guiding your actions.
 
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