Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
Dress isn't as important as many of the dudes who post on here think, take a dude like, Bruce Springsteen, for example, he wears torn denims, some hot babes love that, it is about having charisma or the X Factor as many call it these days, if you have that nothing else matters. :yes:Hoogie said:Of course confidence and making decisions (leading)
Sense of safety
More physically... looking them in the eyes and not being afraid of them like some guys
And even if your an ugly ****, a good sense of fashion and a respect for yourself.
PigAdlemPimp said:Dress isn't as important as many of the dudes who post on here think, take a dude like, Bruce Springsteen, for example, he wears torn denims, some hot babes love that, it is about having charisma or the X Factor as many call it these days, if you have that nothing else matters. :yes:
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
I am just saying that you do not need to be dressed up in an expensive suit to pull the hottest babes, if you have the X Factor, then torn denims will do the job.SuSHI said:Are you kidding me? So you're telling me that your clothing is judged as unattractive when it has a vintage look to it? have you been under a rock for the past decade? Also, even if spring were to wear a paper bag he would still get chicks, he's a famous musician.
Many things play into it, charisma is one huge one, but looks are also important too...
It depends on the woman you're with, it's not cookie cutter.Rint said:This is a connecting thread to one i did before. But i want to know traits that make women feel good around you besides being funny.
That all depends of who you are and what do you look like. If you are an average looking guy with an average build and a plain personality then yeah a plain white-t shirt and plain jeans will not help you. If you are however hitting the gym on a constant basis and as a result you are build, got a good haircut, walk around with confidence and have a great outgoing personality, then the plain white t shirt and jeans wouldn't really be an issue or hinder the attraction to you.TillTheEndOfTime said:But to put it this way, you won't get noticed for your lain white t-shirts and plain jeans.
She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.