"How I Made Sure No Woman Ever Friend-Zoned Me Again"

She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.

You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.

She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.

The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.

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Toxic Shame / Fear Of Intimacy / Love-shyness

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Anyone ever come across any of these terms before? I've read a lot on these 3 topics over the last week or 2 and it has really been a positive rewarding experience.

I can honestly say that the reason for all my girl problems in the past was because of these 3 things. And I'm willing to bet many AFC's also suffer from these issues. I wish I knew about toxic shame and love-shyness a long time ago, and I feel compelled to give everyone else the heads up. Become more aware, so to speak.

Check out these links to find out a bit more

http://joy2meu.com/Fear_of_Intimacy.html

Also check out the community of love-shy guys @
http://www.love-shy.com/index.php
Download the love-shy book. Its free. The parallels to AFC's are strong. The author of this book, treats love-shyness much like a psych disorder and his work is backed by research and many case studies of love-shy guys. He offers treatment and causes. Its quite interesting.

Having visited the love-shy yahoo group support forum I realise that they are no closer to a solution than we DJ's are. A lot of the guys over there are also heavily into seduction and frequent sites like sosuave. Could make for a good discussion...
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Love shyness. Is that where you just get all sort of embarrassed to kiss your mother? Oh sorry, you're talking about the one which is intrinsically linked to your cvck. Fear of intimacy. Is that where you wear a double set of underwear in a maximum security prison in case another inmate gets too friendly? Oh, something different again.

Avoid cliches, pop psychology and such things at all costs. By all means tell your girlfriend that you don't have a handle on things, that you're in a mess and want mothering. That will be about as reassuring as having an airplane captain tell the passengers that he's lost power in all engines and he isn't sure what to do next.
 
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ElChoclo said:
That will be about as reassuring as having an airplane captain tell the passengers that he's lost power in all engines and he isn't sure what to do next.
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:crackup: Too funny! :crackup:

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