"The Kiss of Death Mistake"
You replay the conversation at 2 a.m. She texted back fast yesterday. Today, nothing. Was that smile friendly or flirty? What did the shoulder touch mean?
Every hour you spend decoding her signals drains your confidence and hands her the controls. Women can sense that insecurity from across the room — and it repels them.
One of the "22 Rules" kills the obsession on the spot: assume she likes you, and act accordingly. Sounds too simple. Works anyway.
Her interest tends to rise to meet your expectations. Psychologists call it a self-fulfilling prophecy.
Towards Manhood!
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"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
flashdance
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I love the way how you expressed AFC:
Nice Guy, desexualized male.
When Maximus (in Gladiator) screams to audience:
"Are you not entertained!?"
I say at this point:
"HELL YEAH!"
Hail masculinity!
"I just moved here from Florida."
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
so clear and painfully on point in every possible way... just what i needed really
every afc on the planet needs to read this
props
i need to read this sh1t like every day
donshawv
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great post pook. every post you make is basically the same concept but I LOVE it!
"She's Out of Your League"
You've said it a hundred times. Maybe a thousand. And every time you say it, you train your brain to freeze the next time she walks into the room.
Leagues are a myth invented by guys who are scared of women.
She's a person. She has bad breath in the morning. She picks songs she can't sing in the shower. She overthinks her own texts.
Walk over. Say something. The league dissolves the second you open your mouth.
Deadly_Assassin
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hey pook love your posts. They are really helpful. I need your advice or anyone else that can help. Well on a sat. nite I got this chicks no at a club. She gave me her cell phone no. So wednesday I sent her a text message saying hey hows it going?... and so on. We started talking a little bit and I was asking her about herself just trying to get to know her. I made sure I was always doing something else (playing PS2) at the same time when I was texting her just so I wouldnt txt her back straight away. Well the next weekend she said she was going clubbing that friday nite and I said yea I was too and I was heading to such and such place. She replied back saying yea she was heading to the same place. When I got to the club i txt her asking her if she was in the club? She replied saying she was at home and couldnt go cos she was in trouble with her dad. (Shes 18 and I am 19) I replied saying that yea I might catch yep with her nxt week. She replied saying that we should meet up sometime. I got back with her on the monday and started txting her again saying hey hows it ? ... and we got talking again a bit. So tuesday nite i rang her and I asked her if she wanted to hang around on wed nite. She said she was busy and said she had some dance practice and she didnt know what time it would finish. I said yea dats cool. So friday I txt her saying what you upto in the weekend and she replied she was out of town for the weekend and is back on sunday nite. I havent txt her since... Well I have seem to have two options I can delete her no. and move on, or I was thinking of asking her if there were any days that she was free and see if she wanted to meet up. If she said nope, then I am definetly moving on.I got another question for you pook
You know how you said on the post "Kill dat desperation" that a person should always think and treat himself as the great catch or prince charming even though he may not be having chicks running after him. But if the chicks can sniff out the true great catch from the one that just pretending to be one, how do you overcome this?
cheers mate
PowerEgo
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Not to bust you guys bubble,
but I bet he has absolute no game
Thoroughbred
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"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"
Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
And unless you are living in a shell, you must have seen a lot of powerful and popular people, that really have quite a lot of the traits that pook or everyone else here describe. Then what makes you think you can't be like these people?
The closest thing to a "powerful and popular" person that I've ever met were my grade-school tormentors: rich jocks. They were everything that Pook described, but it made them into pure evil.
Thus, Pook's path of power, pride, and egoism seems, to me, to be a dark and dangerous one, of risking becoming the exploiter and tormentor myself.
I'm also a filthy hater, one of the angry and envious villagers from the post.
Wannabe1983
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very good, send chills through my spine at some time...
The Monkey
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It needs to be stickied in every forum.
And put in the DJ Bible, because if I'm not mistaken, it ISN'T IN THERE.
"Stop Asking Your Friends What to Text Her"
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.