"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Tourists at bars/clubs

mr. kennedy

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I live in a big city so there are a lot of tourists that visit, especially tourists that do road trips for the weekend. I've noticed the vast majority leave on Sunday afternoon to head back home.

I feel it's a double edged sword approaching or maintaining convos with tourists at clubs/bars. They are by far the most approachable girls. They aren't shy to approach guys themselves either. But I feel nothing comes out of it at the end, especially when they are a group of 3 or 4 girls. Case in point I met 5 groups of tourists last night (3 of them approached me) but there is always a friend or 2 in the group that interferes and wants to go somewhere else or your buddy doesn't fully connect with their bff killing the vibe you are currently having with the chick you're speaking. As they are from out of town, they do not split from the group.

Do any of you have success with tourists at clubs or is it better to just ignore them even though they are the most approachable women at the club. The most I ever got was make out sessions. Can't seem to get them away from their group to bring them home.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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