Tough Love Needed - Analysis Of Situation

[plumber]

your question is why does it matter you ? you know logically that it should not matter, but it does. well, she successfully convinced you that she VERY much approves of you. now she has changed that and has TOLD you that she approves of someone else instead.

she was able to cut straight through your emotions. the other posts here have explained the logistics. what your feeling is that she got through to your emotional core. take a deep breath and refocus... you know how.

 

[Clockwerk50]

^^OK, gotcha. I thought you were at least considering it because of what you posted below in your opening post.



My thought being why would you ask her out if you didn't want to go back? Or considering it?

Anywho, tnx for clarifying.

Not to write another wall of text, but it is just inappropriate and the wrong timing. My expectation was that her life would stay relatively constant for a while, but hearing that it had changed threw me off balance. I was engulfed by impatience, being concerned only with my own pleasure, being self-focused, and some egoism. I could have done better with that Tuesday call but whatever.

Anyways, the right frame of mind is to not only wish her the best, but to be happy that she is adamant about starting the proceedings and hopefully ending her chaotic life with something happier. That's the mindset I need to get back to.

This is why journaling and writing stuff like this is helpful.

 

[BillyPilgrim]

Not to write another wall of text, but it is just inappropriate and the wrong timing. My expectation was that her life would stay relatively constant for a while, but hearing that it had changed threw me off balance. I was engulfed by impatience, being concerned only with my own pleasure, being self-focused, and some egoism. I could have done better with that Tuesday call but whatever.

Anyways, the right frame of mind is to not only wish her the best, but to be happy that she is adamant about starting the proceedings and hopefully ending her chaotic life with something happier. That's the mindset I need to get back to.

This is why journaling and writing stuff like this is helpful.

If you have the time, maybe consider taking a trip out to the countryside, get in touch with nature for a bit.