Originally posted by Quickclicker
I'm improving myself and trying to change my demeanor in certain situations. I would like some advice on how to handle different scenarios with "tough guys."
[/B][/QUOTE] I hate guys who act tough and like they are gangstas. I've described myself in a previous thread. Where I’m at they are mostly black guys with the baggy clothes, bandannas, platinum (sorry I mean plastic) chains, etc. walking around looking at everyone and trying to challenge guys with eye contact and try to start shyt. I’ll give you some scenarios and tell me how I should handle these:[/B][/QUOTE]
[/B][/QUOTE] Scenario 1: I’m walking through the mall, and on the opposite way, these “tough guys” are coming my way. Should I just look straight ahead? Sometimes I want to keep looking at these guys and watch their stupidity. When there is little room for all of us to get through, I usually wait for one of the people in his group to move his shoulder to give me space. I usually collide with one of these mofo’s, and have gotten in a couple of verbal arguments and almost in fights. I just don’t want to feel weak by “moving myself” for him. Should I just be submissive (a puzzy) and move my shoulder first?[/B][/QUOTE]
1. They sound like gang bangers..why would you wanna mess with those type of fools.
2. I think with that gang shyt it's a whole nuther world of trying to be a man or rites of passage kind of shyt. Of course many of them are cowards and looking for weak looking prey such as yourself to mess with.
[/B][/QUOTE] Scenario 2: I’m eating my food at a restaurant, and these “tough guys” are staring at me and making jokes. I sit there knowing what they are doing by I try to play it cool and not look for a confrontation. Should I go up to them and ask them what is so funny, or be a bytch and let them disrespect me like that?[/B][/QUOTE]
1. You already acted like a bytch by not doing anything. You've lost your manhood in their eyes. To try to regain it will only cost you pain. I would stay away from them and continue doing what your doing...atleast your still able to eat food with all of your teeth in your mouth.
2. You might learn self defense to build up your own self-esteem and confidence. Right now you sound angry at yourself more than you are those other fools. Your angry cause you didn't do anything....your feeling weak and powerless. It's not worth carrying a gun over or going Columbine style.
3. Those toughs will get theirs one day. You gotta be man enough to stay within yourself and not let them pull you into anytype of confrontation.
[/B][/QUOTE] Scenario 3: I’m walking on the sidewalk, and these “tough guys” are approaching. Do you all give eye contact to these rascals and say “whazup man.” I tried that today, and they just ignored it. I hate these bastards. They think they are too good to say hello. What if they keep looking at you as they pass by? Should I say something or keep staring provoking a confrontation?[/B][/QUOTE]
Hell no! Why start something you can't finish. And it's yourself that you hate more. I look straight ahead. I make brief eye contact and act like they are beneath me. Cause of my size and look I get toughs wanting to test their manhood all the time...and breaking their bones isn't worth slowing down my time for.
Good luck.
