"Blank Mind on Dates? She's Dropping Hints You Keep Missing"

The plates get cleared and the silence lands like a brick. You can feel her waiting. Your brain offers up your commute, your job, the weather — topics that have ended more second dates than bad breath.

Here's what most guys never learn: women hand out free conversational material all night long. Tiny clues about what they actually want to discuss. Catch them and you never run out of things to say — because she's telling you what to say next.

Rule 4 of the "22 Rules" trains your ear to catch every single one.

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Tough decision for me. Should I go?

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My girlfriend (past girl bully) asked me if I wanted to go to the club with her and her girlfriends. These are the friends that used to beat me up in college. If I go, they may try to start wit me and break us up. Have yall ever been in this situation before? I'll probably tell her to just have a girl night out. she should understand right?
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Yes.
 

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No, don't go.

'cause if you go, you're gonna get your ass kicked, and then you're gonna come back here and post what happened. I don't wanna hear those stories again lol.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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joecollapoppa,

Listen, dude, I don't know you and I don't know what kind of person you are, but from your 'girl fight' posts (many of them), I can tell you that you should think about being more of a MAN. Letting girls beat you up is ridiculous. You have to put a stop to that sh*t right f*cking now.

The next time they try to pull that trash on you, tell them to step the f*ck off, and mean it, goddammit.

If your girlfriend wants you to go clubbin with her friends, go. Just go. You'll look like a p*ssy if you don't because she'll know exactly why. If her friends want to try and "break you up", so be it. If her friends have that power over her, she's wasting your valuable time.

If you guys get there and her friends try to pull something, tell them to f*ck off and grow up. For God's sake, you guys are all 21+......this kind of behavior should have stopped in high school at best!!

No offense, bro, but grow a pair and get control of the situation - you are a MAN, correct?

I think your way to late though. This thing really needs to DIE.

Go meet some other women.
 

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I already put an end to it. remember when I beat both of them in the park? I challenged them. After that day, they never bothered me again. This happened a good while ago.
 

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But my point was the respect level, dude.
 

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Oh they respected me after that, im sure. I just don't want them to pull any stunts such as flirting with me to get my girl jealous etc. Tellin my girl to dance with other guys, things of that nature.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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Sounds like a problematic situation. Personally, I'd bounce. It doesn't sound like you've got a lot invested in this girl, and living in NYC, you've got zero reasons to not replace her.

Just my 0.02
 

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Man she's a HB10 and the sex is da bomb. thats 2 right there
Just because she asked me to go to a club is no reason to break up with her. Depending on what goes down at the club will decide whether i'll leave her or not. But that would be a big pvssy move if i break up with her cuz she "asked" me to go.
 
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The "Girl wrestling with Guy" Soap-Opera drama continues!!:rolleyes:
 

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Originally posted by joecollapoppa
Man she's a HB10 and the sex is da bomb. thats 2 right there
Just because she asked me to go to a club is no reason to break up with her. Depending on what goes down at the club will decide whether i'll leave her or not. But that would be a big pvssy move if i break up with her cuz she "asked" me to go.

No, no. You misunderstood me.

I'm not you, so I don't know. But the whole damn thing is ridiculous. Girls that respect you don't 'beat you up', or have their friends do it....or whatever.

Go clubbin.
 
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