"You Can't Argue a Woman Into Liking You"

You made your case like a lawyer. Stable job. Good guy. Ready for something real. All true. All irrelevant.

She weighed your points, nodded along, felt nothing — then fell hard for some tattooed bartender with a motorcycle and a gambling problem.

Logic is where attraction goes to die. The "22 Rules" work a level deeper, on the subconscious switches that decide within minutes whether you register as a MAN or as part of the furniture.

Stop presenting evidence. Start flipping switches.

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hanlinting

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Recently, i noticed this interesting situation... i am new at this btw.. I hook up with this girl (not formally b/c we usually get together to study only) and i noticed she like spending time with me, smile at me a lot, and call me a lot. But won't go out why is that? The only thing she would do with me is study...:confused: Do you think she sees me only as friend?
PS she knows i like her and we really spend lot of time studying like every other day.
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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three12

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hanlinting,

You have 0 chance with this girl. You are deeply embedded in the friend zone. Infact, I doubt you even make the friend zone.

When she's talking to her friends I'll be she says,

"no, I can't come to dinner tonight, I'm going to study with my nerd, hehehehe"

rather than

"no, I can't come to dinner tonight, I'm going to study with hanlinting"

Dude, stick around at this site. Read, Study, Practise.

Practise, Practise, Practise.

Then Practise some more.

Give up on this girl.

Start on a different one.

three12.
 

Macgyver

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Dude you will never know how a girl feels about you if you don't show interest, don't kino, don't make a sexual move.

Now go do those things before you make another stupid whiny post.
 

"You'll Never Feel READY to Walk Over"

Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.

You've been "getting ready" for two years.

She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.

Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.

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mountain

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hey man, all odds are relations with this girl are beyond repair. tell her matter of factly that you aren't studying with her anymore. she's using you as a tool and you are letting her, it repulses her sexually. if you make it obvious that you arent a challenge, she isn't going to be interested. learn from this experience and keep moving
 

Juanito

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three12 - learn to spell....practice practice and practice

hanlinting...don't listen to these 'DJ's who can't get REAL chicks in REAL LIVES...most of them only know these so-called-theories and can't practice them themselves (socially imcompetent who spend hours in front of comp screen)

it's just my humble opinion, don't be too available for this girl...don't worry about what SHE thinks of you...you wanna become her BF...not a mind reader right?

you don't have to be a jerk or a act like a sleeze to get a girl, just be a man - have your own life, be active, build up your rep within your social circle

then when you think you're ready, flirt with her.

i wish you all the best amigo:up:
 

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Get the e-book "Attraction is not a choice" by David DeAngelo. It's a very good start.
 

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The essense of this relationship wasn't established on attraction - it was based on her needing a good study partner. She is getting what she wants out of the relationship and doubt she'll want anything more than that.

Use her for practice in flirting etc but don't waste your romantic time on someone who isn't interested in you that way.
 

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If you set this up on your own, there's a pretty good chance she may have had initial interest, but you let that ship sail by not picking up on the signs, if there actually were any to begin with.

But whatever the case may be, at this point most efforts are going to come off as "too little too late". Be realistic. This girl is going to see straight through your sudden efforts to "become a man". She is not going to make a 180 degree turn straight into your arms simply because you shift your schedule around a little. "Kino" is not a magic touch, other tangibles have to be in place for it to work. Basically, these are the things you should do with the next one, not this one.

Use this one as a stepping stone to get other women. Keep your relations with her as they are, but recruit her, in a way, and be bold about your intentions. If you see a friend of hers you like, plainly say so. Ask her to just introduce you to her or something along those lines. Keep it simple. Don't try to be a DJ just yet. What you're essentially doing here is displaying your ability to handle rejection, not hold a grudge and show a little aggressiveness in your personality. If she has put you into the "just friends" zone, make use of it. It's not a defeat, it's just a detour.

There is an outside chance she may find this "new trait" of yours attractive, but don't bank on it. Just consider her a study buddy for the time being and capitalize on it.
 

"Nervous Around Beautiful Women? There's a Rule for That"

I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.

The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.

Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.

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