"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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Recently, i noticed this interesting situation... i am new at this btw.. I hook up with this girl (not formally b/c we usually get together to study only) and i noticed she like spending time with me, smile at me a lot, and call me a lot. But won't go out why is that? The only thing she would do with me is study...:confused: Do you think she sees me only as friend?
PS she knows i like her and we really spend lot of time studying like every other day.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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hanlinting,

You have 0 chance with this girl. You are deeply embedded in the friend zone. Infact, I doubt you even make the friend zone.

When she's talking to her friends I'll be she says,

"no, I can't come to dinner tonight, I'm going to study with my nerd, hehehehe"

rather than

"no, I can't come to dinner tonight, I'm going to study with hanlinting"

Dude, stick around at this site. Read, Study, Practise.

Practise, Practise, Practise.

Then Practise some more.

Give up on this girl.

Start on a different one.

three12.
 

Macgyver

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Dude you will never know how a girl feels about you if you don't show interest, don't kino, don't make a sexual move.

Now go do those things before you make another stupid whiny post.
 

"I just moved here from Florida."

That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?

She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."

She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.

I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.

Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.

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hey man, all odds are relations with this girl are beyond repair. tell her matter of factly that you aren't studying with her anymore. she's using you as a tool and you are letting her, it repulses her sexually. if you make it obvious that you arent a challenge, she isn't going to be interested. learn from this experience and keep moving
 

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three12 - learn to spell....practice practice and practice

hanlinting...don't listen to these 'DJ's who can't get REAL chicks in REAL LIVES...most of them only know these so-called-theories and can't practice them themselves (socially imcompetent who spend hours in front of comp screen)

it's just my humble opinion, don't be too available for this girl...don't worry about what SHE thinks of you...you wanna become her BF...not a mind reader right?

you don't have to be a jerk or a act like a sleeze to get a girl, just be a man - have your own life, be active, build up your rep within your social circle

then when you think you're ready, flirt with her.

i wish you all the best amigo:up:
 

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Get the e-book "Attraction is not a choice" by David DeAngelo. It's a very good start.
 

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The essense of this relationship wasn't established on attraction - it was based on her needing a good study partner. She is getting what she wants out of the relationship and doubt she'll want anything more than that.

Use her for practice in flirting etc but don't waste your romantic time on someone who isn't interested in you that way.
 

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If you set this up on your own, there's a pretty good chance she may have had initial interest, but you let that ship sail by not picking up on the signs, if there actually were any to begin with.

But whatever the case may be, at this point most efforts are going to come off as "too little too late". Be realistic. This girl is going to see straight through your sudden efforts to "become a man". She is not going to make a 180 degree turn straight into your arms simply because you shift your schedule around a little. "Kino" is not a magic touch, other tangibles have to be in place for it to work. Basically, these are the things you should do with the next one, not this one.

Use this one as a stepping stone to get other women. Keep your relations with her as they are, but recruit her, in a way, and be bold about your intentions. If you see a friend of hers you like, plainly say so. Ask her to just introduce you to her or something along those lines. Keep it simple. Don't try to be a DJ just yet. What you're essentially doing here is displaying your ability to handle rejection, not hold a grudge and show a little aggressiveness in your personality. If she has put you into the "just friends" zone, make use of it. It's not a defeat, it's just a detour.

There is an outside chance she may find this "new trait" of yours attractive, but don't bank on it. Just consider her a study buddy for the time being and capitalize on it.
 

"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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