Topic of Discussion: Is being mad unattractive to women?

[narcissist]

I have been pondering this lately. I think this could be debatable for a couple of reasons. But before I give my two cents on the topic I want to hear what you guys think first, so I don't bias any of the discussion on it. So the question is: is being/getting mad unattractive to women?

Also as a secondary question. What is the best way to act out your anger or madness towards a girl/girlfriend? given that it is found to be the best course of action in some circumstances.

 

[Infern0]

Yes it's unattractive.

And you need to exercise self control. Half the time "getting mad" is projection anyway, but if your girl has genuinely disrespected you, them you remove your presence.

 

[narcissist]

Yes it's unattractive.

And you need to exercise self control. Half the time "getting mad" is projection anyway, but if your girl has genuinely disrespected you, them you remove your presence.

Remove presence I understand entirely. But think about the hypothetical scenario: your girl/girlfriend disrespects you and they don't know/are unaware that they disrespected you. Ought you to tell them and then remove presence?

 

[El Payaso]

Depends on what you're getting mad for.

If you're getting mad because your favorite sports team lost, she won't really care.

If you're getting mad because she didn't text you goodnight or she refused to have sex with you or whatever, she will realize that she has a lot of emotional control over you.

You should always strive to make sure your emotions are not a reaction to her behavior. She is a tornado and you are Mount Everest. She whips against you, trashes against you and throws her petty tantrums but it simply doesn't phase you because you are a rock.

 

[bigneil]

Being mad is only a turn-on for them under certain conditions. It can normally be called complaining/whining/frustration.

However, it's important to understand how the four main personality types relate to anger:

1) Elitist - boils things down to Appropriate/Inappropriate and uses Depression and Withdrawal when things are inappropriate. (Central Bankers)
2) Feeler - boils things down to Fair/Unfair and uses Bargaining and Conciliation when things are unfair. (Most people and most women act like this)
3) Analyst - boils things down to Logical/Illogical and uses Denial and Dismissal when things are illogical. (Mr. Spock is the classic example)
4) Driver - boils things down to Right/Wrong and uses Anger and Indignation when things are wrong. (Captain Kirk is the classic example, Donald Trump and myself are also this personality type).

(source: Glenn Foster, 1994)

So for some of us (about 10%) who are drivers, anger is our natural filter. This turns women on, "big league" (yelling at drivers in traffic doesn't count), but if anyone else acts angry they are outside their normal behavior zone. Captain Kirk in one of his shpeals turns women on. If Mr. Spock acted angry he would seem crazy.

Note that Drivers blow through anger and don't hold grudges. Meanwhile, feelers act horrified when people like Trump show anger toward things that are wrong and they are hurt forever.

 

[wifehunter]

Mad anger is a serious and potentially damaging emotion. It's best to control it and only get angry at important things ex: life or death situations

control is 33% of attraction (doc love)

mad crazy, on the otherhand, is a different story alltogether!

 

[ChristopherColumbus]

Never lose your cool I say.

That's not to say you're unemotional. Actually, I think the very definition of cool is when you are in control of your emotions... and along for the ride so to speak.

 

[Mike32ct]

Generally, women respect a guy that can "keep his cool" under difficult situations.

But, I think she still wants you to have a "breaking point" so she knows you have a backbone.

So keep your cool 99 percent of the time, but genuine anger is fine in some rare instance where someone REALLY pushes you to the limit.

 

[TheMonkeyKing]

I've gotten mad with women before. It doesn't end well. Some women will be excited by it, but they are generally unstable themselves; I've had my share of them and again, it doesn't end well. Instead, employ amused mastery; treat her like a brat when she acts up.

With view genuine disrespect, drawn yourself a line in the sand of what you will and won't tolerate. If she crosses over, simply tell her to leave or disappear yourself. I generally give two warnings, depending on the misdemeanor. Third strike: out.

 

[Building_and_Loan]

There's a way you can make being mad attractive, but you have to make it look like you're controlling yourself from blowing up. Your actions and words have to be very deliberate, don't lose control, and just make it look like you're completely fed up with something. It also depends what you're getting mad about, as it can't be about her, sports, or something petty.

Ultimately it's tough to describe, but I've been with a girl who said it was sexy when I got mad. "I love when you get mad like that"

 

[Poon King]

Anger is probably one of the few emotions women find attractive in men.. as long as its directed at the right thing.

Anger over something stupid will be a turn off. Overall, women find angry men more attractive than happy men according to scientific research.

 

[AttackFormation]

Anger is probably one of the few emotions women find attractive in men.. as long as its directed at the right thing.

Anger over something stupid will be a turn off. Overall, women find angry men more attractive than happy men according to scientific research.

This. I think anger excites them similarly to and in tandem with rough sex.

 

[Desdinova]

Anger is probably one of the few emotions women find attractive in men.. as long as its directed at the right thing.

This right here.

Anger causes their emotions to fluctuate whether it's directed at them or directed at something else. If you're just placing blame on her for something stupid you did, then your anger is based on insecurity.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

I skimmed through responses, didn't read them all. An unstable woman may find it attractive and could get some tingles.

I've brought plenty of plates to some of my hockey games. When ever they witnessed me get mad and/or physical I've always heard later that it made them wet or horny. If the anger is towards them tho it usually doesn't end up so well.

 

[SmooveMooves]

I said "no need to be a d1ck about it, fvcking faggot."

Lmfao