"So, What Do You Do for Fun?"

She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.

Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.

The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.

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rock for light

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So I'm a pretty shy, quiet person. Most people I meet tell me I'm quiet. I want to change but sometimes it's hard to find something to say.

Anyways, I invited this girl over to watch a movie tonight. I thought since we would be watching a movie some of the pressure would be off of me, but I want her to remember more about me than the movie. I'm terrified that she'll just come over, watch the movie, then leave, and nothing will really click.

Can someone give me some advice on how and where to steer a conversation?

PS I'm sorry if this is one of those common threads that everyone hates, but please don't lock it. I don't really have enough time before she gets here to search the site or forums.

Thanks.
 

"She Made Her Decision Before You Finished Your Sentence"

Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.

She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.

Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.

So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.

The words come later. The impression comes first.

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thekcguyme

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Just relax dude and dont get into any deep convo. Your watching a movie anyways. Use a little ****y comedy and maybe some kino. Sometimes I use stuff in the movie to make convo.
 

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successful kino, like alcohol, really aids a convo. Use it well. Also, look through the Articles and Hall of Fame section for some general advice about conversations.

Then learn to relax, and when it's all over, perhaps read the Book of Pook (link at bottom).
 
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