"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Cheeky_James

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You're so fixated on his looks that you dismiss every other factor that has been described, then pass off your own speculation as fact. His looks were clearly a factor, but claiming they were the only factor is pure speculation.

Maybe take your own advice and reread the definition of confirmation bias until the penny drops.
hey clockwerk,
What do you think it means when Greene says
“ but his SECRET was ..”
he isn’t clear here and doesn’t finish the sentence..

his ‘secret’ to what exactly ? .. Or ..of what

I am confused. Pls help clarify thanks
 

"Why Women Dump the Guys Who Try the Hardest"

You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.

And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.

Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.

The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.

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Clockwerk50

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hey clockwerk,
What do you think it means when Greene says
“ but his SECRET was ..”
he isn’t clear here and doesn’t finish the sentence..

his ‘secret’ to what exactly ? .. Or ..of what

I am confused. Pls help clarify thanks
I don’t know, but acting like the wording on the video proves your point while ignoring the rest of the description is pretty disingenuous.
 

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In my experience, I always take what women say with a grain of salt. Most of the time, they end up with someone completely different from the type they claim to be looking for.
100%! I'm guilty of this^^ including with my current who is an attorney and I swore I wouid NEVER date an attorney after working with them for years. Among other things.

I'm the same re looks. I always said my preference is tall, blonde and lean (swimmers physique). Why? Because my first love had that look and physique. And for a long time I compared every man to HIM!

But once I finally got over him, I have found myself attracted to all different types, men who did not have that look. So I stopped trying to figure it out. It's much too nuanced and subjective.

As I stated in my previous, in my experience it's about the chemistry/energy that exists between two people, a natural masculine/feminine polarity which is intangible and cannot be defined.

His looks factor in but not for the reason you think. Meaning he may not be conventionally good looking but because of the our mutual natural chemistry/energy which often times is felt very quickly after meeting, he becomes good looking TO ME.

It's also why I have turned down extremely hot men, men with a certain status and wealth..

What I'm trying to say is there is NO magic sauce or formula that will guarantee attraction for either gender IME. No amount of looks or Game will work if the natural chemistry isn't there.

Ever wonder why after a date when YOU felt everything went right, you looked great, were 100% on your Game, did everything right, the woman texted the next day saying "I had a great time but just wasn't 'feeling it'"?

For her, there was no chemistry, no "spark." It happens all the time

Genuine attraction (versus superficial) and chemistry cannot be manufactured or created, again jmo and experience. It simply exists, it's an intangible force, no rhyme or reason.

Stop trying so hard.

All that said, I acknowledge since this is a seduction forum this may not be the right thread (or the right forum) to discuss this in more detail so I'll leave it. Just food for thought

Carry on mate, good luck!
 
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I don’t know, but acting like the wording on the video proves your point while ignoring the rest of the description is pretty disingenuous.
you don’t know?
But you followed along when he said the word SECRET and then the words HE DIDNT GET DEFENSIVE And HE DIDNT GET REACTIVE atraight after it right?

So what do you make of the meaning of that sentence … this Brazilian Man’s ‘SECRET’
His secret to WHAT mate.
Cmon, you made you’re interpretation of the video,
What’s your interpretation of that particular sentence..?

it’s a pretty simple question about a single sentence in the video.
I’m just confused . I need help understanding that sentence . Help me out here guys!
 

"The Coffee Shop Girl You Never Spoke To"

You've replayed it a hundred times. She stood three feet away, scrolling her phone. You had an opening. You composed the perfect line — after she was gone.

For all you know, she's married now. To some guy who said something. Anything.

Openers are cheap. Almost any sentence works when it's delivered within three seconds. The expensive part is the standing there, drafting and deleting, while the window quietly closes.

The "22 Rules" stripped out my hesitation. What to open with, how to keep it alive, and the one habit that costs guys more women than anything else: waiting for perfect.

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Clockwerk50

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you don’t know?
But you followed along when he said the word SECRET and then the words HE DIDNT GET DEFENSIVE And HE DIDNT GET REACTIVE atraight after it right?

So what do you make of the meaning of that sentence … this Brazilian Man’s ‘SECRET’
His secret to WHAT mate.
Cmon, you made you’re interpretation of the video,
What’s your interpretation of that particular sentence..?

it’s a pretty simple question about a single sentence in the video.
The video says that the secret is that he never got defensive or reactive. I'm not sure what there is to interpret differently when he spells it out in the very next sentence.
 
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