"She Laughed All Night. Then She Ghosted You. Here's Why."

Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.

Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?

You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.

Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.

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KontrollerX

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Good stuff backbreaker.

Its also been phrased...

"I am not discouraged, because every wrong attempt discarded is another step forward."-Thomas Edison
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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Mistakes are nothing more than speed bumps on the backroad that is called success
Often true. But anyone on Death Row will make a strong argument against it that no "positive thinking" philosophy can very well trump. There's no way to spin that into something positive without looking toward an afterlife or next life...

It all depends. My point is that one should be aware of the difference between "the sky being the limit" in the sense you're writing about, backbreaker, and jumping off a cliff with nothing but your own arms and legs to propel you expecting to fly...

And I still think it's better to learn from the mistakes of others before they become your own "speedbumps on the road to success."

But I've found there is simply no way to anticipate every disaster or misfortune that slams you, or even be in a position to deal with it in a way that enables you to "pick yourself up and dust yourself off." Shit happens, no matter how well informed or prepared one may be.

The fact that one who says that may not be in a enviable position doesn't change the fact or its value, but could give you the info you need to prevent it from happening to you and putting you in the same fix they're in.
 

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Wow!

I was off for a while. Nice to take some air around the world... I did so many things with my life, meet so many people, saw many new places... damn, you all ought to turn the computer off for a while! :)

Well... I learned some things:

1) Listen to the older.
2) Listen to what people say, but never take it for face value. Instead, combine it with what they do and you will get valuable information.
3) Get lost. LOL! Seriously, get lost. Go to places you've never been. Travel. Meet people.
4) Being dependable sucks.
5) Do not become "satisfied". Everything sucks, you ought to shake everything up. Change your clothes. Buy a new car. Listen to another kind of music.
6) Work. Find something you like to do and do it well.
7) Smart financial decisions makes life a LOT easier. It interferes with everything.
8) Study. Being smart is very rewarding. The "piece of paper" is the least important part of it.
9) The more you listen to what people think of you, the more you'll see how much they have no idea who you are. Define your own life.
10) "Life is too short to drink cheap beer" -- genius! Know what you want and go after it. No excuses. We do not know if we'll get the chance to live again, so it's wise to make the most out of this one.
 

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Excellent thread! Very insight read, I can definitely relate to a number of these.
 

"I'm Not Looking for Anything Serious Right Now"

When a woman says it, guys hear a confession. A heads-up. A scheduling conflict.

Here's the translation: I don't feel anything. Right now. With you.

Watch what happens when a man triggers actual attraction. The busy career, the recent breakup, the "not in a place to date" — all of it evaporates instantly. The same woman who was guarding her freedom is suddenly free every night.

The "22 Rules" explain why. When the right switches flip, her timeline rearranges itself around you.

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get to know someone completely before you propose the rest of your life with them.
 

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penkitten said:
get to know someone completely before you propose the rest of your life with them.
How is this possible?
 
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