Next Monday you'll feel more confident. After the gym you'll feel more confident. After one more drink you'll feel more confident. After you get a better haircut, a better jacket, a better job.
You've been "getting ready" for two years.
She's standing ten feet away right now. She'll be gone in four minutes. No amount of preparation will manufacture the courage that only comes from moving your feet.
Walk over. Stumble through the first sentence. Let it be clumsy. Let it be imperfect. You will feel more alive in those ten seconds than you have all month.
Your buddy Dave has been single for three years and thinks "hey u up" is a valid strategy. Your other buddy Mike just got dumped and told you to "just be yourself."
You showed them her text. You asked them to decode the emoji. You drafted four responses and sent the screenshot to the group chat for a vote.
She's been waiting forty minutes.
Put the phone down. Stop crowdsourcing your love life. Type something that sounds like you. Hit send. Then go do literally anything else with your evening.
Which one you recommand ? I have Sexual Selection Switch but i didnt listen it yet .ready123 said:Vin DiCarlo - had the best Natural Game model before the Blue Print, helped come up with some great concepts to address sticking points: focus, windows of escalation, compliance, VAC, dicarlo escalation ladder, etc
if you want the best learning model for natural game, I'd go with TD's Blueprint. 90% of the concepts I learned from Vin Dicarlo were explained better in the BP, plus the BP filled in all the gapsDaddy The Pimp said:Which one you recommand ? I have Sexual Selection Switch but i didnt listen it yet .
Yea I heard he's good but I never bothered to look him up. I'm at the point where I'm sick of gurus. Almost every guru emphasizes their model out of context because nobody's drawn the bigger picture that unites all these methods. It's pretty much up to you to figure it out. And in doing so you find a lot of them take the same concepts, give them different names and confuse everybody (RSD calls a sht test a congruent test. Vin DiCarlo calls lack of neediness "warm dominance".). It's annoying to have to sort through that sht every time.schttrj said:but my fave is carlos xuma, he is the real deal and man, he gives u some insights, do u check his things?
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
"Not from a Jedi . . ."wolf116 said:Isn't "The Blueprint" like $400 or something?
Is that the DVD set or the book.
I've been hearing good things about it.
haha I can't find a torrentKarmaSutra said:"Not from a Jedi . . ."
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Yea this is good advice but sometimes you cant look for someone's else method . Most of the time , method works best for peoples who found it .Señor Fingers said:The best "guru" you can find will be a friend who is good with women.
That sentence contains at least five follow-up questions she WANTS you to ask. Where in Florida? What brought you here? How long have you been in the area? What do you miss? How does it compare to here?
She handed them to you on a silver platter. And you said, "Oh cool. I come here every week. I love this band. Ummm... pretty crowded tonight."
She smiled politely. Nodded. And never texted you back.
I was that guy for years. Talking too much. Listening too little. Panicking about my next sentence while she was literally feeding me the answers.
Then I found 22 rules that fixed the whole thing. Rule number one: shut up and listen. She'll tell you exactly what to say.
Thanks for the articles! These are brilliant, everyone should read them. Seriously, wow. I've never heard of him before but he has a new fan.ready123 said:if you want the best learning model for natural game, I'd go with TD's Blueprint. 90% of the concepts I learned from Vin Dicarlo were explained better in the BP, plus the BP filled in all the gaps
DiCarlo feels attraction is caused by situational dynamics such as compliance. TD's theory that subcommunication causes attraction makes a lot more sense to me
DiCarlo still has a lot of solid ideas though
- his escalation ladder and his concept of windows of opportunity are the best ways to troubleshoot kino. All the guys who are getting wierd responses from the girl or LMR should go check it out
- he tends to look at things from a compliance standpoint (this is what sexual selection switch is about, trying to get the girl to hold your drink and sht). I don't know if it's the ideal way to be looking at things but you do learn a lot
- this article of his and this article are why I went natural. back then, they just clicked with me
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.