Attraction runs on a clock.
She flirted for weeks. Touched your arm. Found reasons to be alone with you. And you were careful. Respectful. Waiting for the right moment.
The moment had a shelf life. It expired around month two, and by the time you asked her out, she'd quietly filed you under "little brother."
One of the hardest lessons inside the 22 Rules: women rarely wait. Interest either grows or it decays, and nothing decays it faster than a man who never moves.
Make the move while she's still inventing reasons to be near you.
You asked her if she wanted to grab coffee. Then you asked if the time worked. Then you asked if the place was okay. Then you asked if she'd prefer tea.
Four questions. Four chances for her to say no. Four signals that you're terrified of making a decision.
Plan it. Pick the place. Pick the time. Tell her where to meet you. She'll either show up or she won't.
Either way, you look like a man instead of a scared little boy.
Which one you recommand ? I have Sexual Selection Switch but i didnt listen it yet .ready123 said:Vin DiCarlo - had the best Natural Game model before the Blue Print, helped come up with some great concepts to address sticking points: focus, windows of escalation, compliance, VAC, dicarlo escalation ladder, etc
if you want the best learning model for natural game, I'd go with TD's Blueprint. 90% of the concepts I learned from Vin Dicarlo were explained better in the BP, plus the BP filled in all the gapsDaddy The Pimp said:Which one you recommand ? I have Sexual Selection Switch but i didnt listen it yet .
Yea I heard he's good but I never bothered to look him up. I'm at the point where I'm sick of gurus. Almost every guru emphasizes their model out of context because nobody's drawn the bigger picture that unites all these methods. It's pretty much up to you to figure it out. And in doing so you find a lot of them take the same concepts, give them different names and confuse everybody (RSD calls a sht test a congruent test. Vin DiCarlo calls lack of neediness "warm dominance".). It's annoying to have to sort through that sht every time.schttrj said:but my fave is carlos xuma, he is the real deal and man, he gives u some insights, do u check his things?
Three seconds. That's how long it took. Your shoes. Your posture. The way you held your drink. Whether you looked at the floor or looked at her.
She already filed you away. Interesting. Boring. Safe. Bold. Before you even opened your mouth.
Everything you say after that is just her confirming what she already decided.
So stop rehearsing lines. Fix the first three seconds. Stand tall. Look up. Smile like you mean it. Walk like you belong wherever you're standing.
The words come later. The impression comes first.
"Not from a Jedi . . ."wolf116 said:Isn't "The Blueprint" like $400 or something?
Is that the DVD set or the book.
I've been hearing good things about it.
haha I can't find a torrentKarmaSutra said:"Not from a Jedi . . ."
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Yea this is good advice but sometimes you cant look for someone's else method . Most of the time , method works best for peoples who found it .Señor Fingers said:The best "guru" you can find will be a friend who is good with women.
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.
Thanks for the articles! These are brilliant, everyone should read them. Seriously, wow. I've never heard of him before but he has a new fan.ready123 said:if you want the best learning model for natural game, I'd go with TD's Blueprint. 90% of the concepts I learned from Vin Dicarlo were explained better in the BP, plus the BP filled in all the gaps
DiCarlo feels attraction is caused by situational dynamics such as compliance. TD's theory that subcommunication causes attraction makes a lot more sense to me
DiCarlo still has a lot of solid ideas though
- his escalation ladder and his concept of windows of opportunity are the best ways to troubleshoot kino. All the guys who are getting wierd responses from the girl or LMR should go check it out
- he tends to look at things from a compliance standpoint (this is what sexual selection switch is about, trying to get the girl to hold your drink and sht). I don't know if it's the ideal way to be looking at things but you do learn a lot
- this article of his and this article are why I went natural. back then, they just clicked with me
Dinner ran three hours. She laughed at everything. You walked her to her car thinking this one's locked in.
Then: nothing. Two texts. No reply. What happened?
You did what most men do on a great date. You filled every silence, answered every question, and left her with nothing to wonder about. No mystery. Nothing to sit with when she got home.
Rule 3 of the "22 Rules" changes the ending: tell her a little, hold back the rest, and let her imagination do the chasing. The ghosting stops too.