She calls you when her car breaks down. When she needs help moving. When some guy she's actually dating treats her badly.
You're the listener. The reliable one. The guy who would treat her so much better, if she'd just open her eyes.
She won't. You trained her to see you as the low-effort option — the friend who requires zero risk and zero investment. Every favor dug the hole deeper.
The "22 Rules" break the pattern. You'll stop auditioning for a role she already cast and become the man she chases instead. It starts with Rule 1.
She asks it casually, mid-sip. And you feel the floor open up, because the honest answer is work, gym, and a couple shows you're half-watching.
Women rarely say this out loud, but a man with a life is attractive before he says a word. The guy who spent Saturday deep-sea fishing and came back with photos and a story — he walks in already interesting.
The "22 Rules" pushed me to build a life worth talking about. Turns out the fastest way to be interesting to women is to be interested in your own life first.
Yeah I saw a couple of those. Agree.PairPlusRoyalFlush said:I havent but I did watch Dorian Yates video series on bodybuilding.com and found it to be very good.
I could talk to any woman I wasn't attracted to. Charming, funny, relaxed. Then a gorgeous woman looked my way and I'd become a sweating, babbling mess.
The fix took me years to find and ten minutes to learn. Nervousness and excitement are the same physical state — pounding heart, adrenaline, flushed face. Your brain just picks the label. And you can pick a better one.
Rule 16 shows you how. You feel the nerves, relabel them as excitement, and let that energy pour out as enthusiasm. Women notice the guy radiating it. They always do.
Dorian Yates trained far more often than Mentzer did and focused on heavy as fvck compounds. Doug McGuff is a quack, there's very little real world success of his programs. Were bodybuilding that easy, everyone would be huge.bradd80 said:Danzy, I'm interested to hear why you'd say this.. Mentzer did die of a heart attack and may have used drugs, but his training methods are now being heavily promoted by medical doctors who specialize in muscle growth research.
Here's one of the articles:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/strength-training/AN00893
His HIT system was also used by Dorian Yates, who went on to win 6 consecutive Mr. Olympia titles.
I think heart problems ran in Mentzer's family, his dad died of heart problems and so did his brother. But I don't think this should take away from the efficiency of his training methods.
Mentzers HIT is a really poor way to train for a natural. Muscle protein synthesis peaks at about the 24 hour mark, and almost returns to baseline at the 36-48 hour mark. Which means the muscle has recovered, and is ready to be stimulated again.bradd80 said:Danzy, I'm interested to hear why you'd say this.. Mentzer did die of a heart attack and may have used drugs, but his training methods are now being heavily promoted by medical doctors who specialize in muscle growth research.
Here's one of the articles:
http://www.mayoclinic.com/health/strength-training/AN00893
His HIT system was also used by Dorian Yates, who went on to win 6 consecutive Mr. Olympia titles.
I think heart problems ran in Mentzer's family, his dad died of heart problems and so did his brother. But I don't think this should take away from the efficiency of his training methods.
You paid for dinner. You drove. You said "whatever you want is fine" every single time. All the effort, no expectations.
And she left anyway — probably for a guy who makes her pick up the pizza.
Painful. Also predictable. Her mind quietly concludes that anything requiring zero effort from her is worth exactly zero. You became a free sample, and free samples get taken for granted.
The 22 Rules flip the dynamic. Small shifts that get her investing effort, money, and time in you — until SHE'S the one afraid of losing YOU.